Have you ever rejected a girl that was a 7+? I'm not talking about sleeping with her and then rejecting her... I'm talking about a scenario where you knew an objectively attractive girl was interested in you and you wouldn't even take her out on a date, and if she asked if you thought she was pretty, you skirted around the question.
If so, why?
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I've dated girls who I knew I didn't want to continue to date but couldn't bring myself to break up with because they were so hot. So for me, no--I've never rejected a hot girl (7+), even when I've wanted to. To reject attractive vagina is like a crime against our biology.
What are we accepting as a 7+?
If Olivia Wilde is a 10 and Jennet Yellen is a 1, then 7+ is like Lena Hadley?
No, I've never rejected a 7+.
I did, once. I hadn't had sex in a while and was completely out of shape. 'Had I fucked her I would of bombed.
My wife has long told me "if a pretty woman acts like she's attracted to you, someone is paying her".
That's psychological abuse.
It's always the pretty ones, isn't it.
What I found pathetic about myself is that I know in my heart of hearts that I would never reject a really hot girl, even a complete psycho. Admittedly, it's shameful.
I could deal with everything here except the false accusation of rape. Been there, done that and it can be life-altering.
Probably your wife paying off the girl to test your willpower...
So your wife is admitting that she isn't good looking?
I'll speak to my pre-marriage days, but definitely. Get laid a few times and realize that you don't actually have to pursue every half decent woman who expresses interest, even though you probably will and in most cases should.
Some of the reasons to say no to very attractive females:
-She's very hot and crazy/bitch. This situation does not often end well. She knows that her looks give her the power to be crazy/bitch more than any other female out there and can end with boiled bunnies, screaming in the school caf, a visit to your office or hounding your doorman for a key to your apartment. Almost never a good idea. The carveout: if she's a thermonuclear device in the sack. You need to do a risk/reward analysis to determine that and of course before you sleep with her it's a gamble but as you refine your Jedi skills it's easier to pick the ones who are good in bed.
-You work with her. Never shit where you eat. Ever (unless it's a high school/college job, then shit on your plate as much as possible). Did it in my early days and it rarely if ever turns out well and can turn out very poorly.
-She's the alpha female of the group that you're going to be interacting with over an extended period of time (for examples in a sorority or in a group of mutual friends that you will be stuck with over an extended period of time) if you're unable to handle her, and I don't mean "handle" in a derogatory way. That can be in bed (don't be a two pump chump) or if you're going to let her run roughshod all over you (you look like the bitch in the relationship) because it will be difficult to shed that reputation over time. In college a fraternity brother of mine started dating the alpha girl in the hot sorority (he was a freshman, she was a sophomore and she was an absolute smoke show and not crazy/bitch, just way too much for him to handle) and he became her bitch. It basically took until she graduated and most of the people had graduated who knew him when he was with her for him to shed that rep. He just looked like a pussy and that turned off most other girls after that. Maybe times have changed, but subconsciously women don't like wimps.
Experienced man right here.
I have two rules: 1) Don't shit where you eat. 2) Only bang PRETTY girls. Pretty girls won't harass you when you dump them. Ugly/average looking girls will harass you.
Basically what that guy said. Looks just aren't worth putting up with a bitchy personality, or a narcissistic "strong, independent woman!" type, or a psycho, when there's plenty of other ones out there who look quite good and are a lot nicer.
Doesn't matter how hot a woman is. Don't get involved in anything serious with her unless she's truly on your team, and don't get involved in ANYTHING with one who's psycho.
Bros, add r/theredpill to your "what to do when I have no work" reading list.
I've broken up with plenty of 7's, or told them to fuck off when they expected it to move from sex to relationship. Does that count?
No.
Hmmm, interesting answers. Now let me ask you this - have you ever rejected a pretty girl because she acted so desperate and was so aggressive that it made her seem less physically attractive?
Also, have you ever rejected a pretty girl because she was a different race?
And lastly, have you ever rejected a girl because she was 10-15 lbs over weight even though you could tell she would have been really cute if she were slimmer?
For me, I only date white girls. I have turned down half of the female Asian population of America. I've turned down 1/4 of the Hispanic community in America. I will only date white women so yes, I've turned down hot girls because of their race. (As an aside, I don't hate non-white women; I'm just not attracted to them. It's really nothing personal--just grew up in America and is what I'm used to.)
I have turned down otherwise hot girls because of their weight. Never had a hot girl so desperate for me that it was weird.
EDIT 2 years later: I now definitely date Asian girls. Something was triggered a year or so ago and now I'm insanely attracted to Asian women. Like, now an Asian 5 is like a 9 to me.
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100% agree. I got a lot of shit during college for being "racist" because it actually became a thing with me. Apparently non-white girls really, really liked me in particular and I kept turning all of them down (and once was barred out and wouldn't hook up with this Asian chick on a dance floor, she asked why, and I said I was only into white girls).
I also absolutely can't do "thick" or overweight girls. I like really, really skinny girls so even slightly thick doesn't do it for me.
Needless to say, it definitely was challenging where I went to college because I was only into small really skinny basic white chicks and there weren't too many around.
Well...you're kinda missing out on the 10-15 pounders. I'm not talking about bbw's but really cute chicks who gained 15 lbs are kinda like the first stringer who got hurt and needs to get back on the football field. Willing to run into a fucking wall to get back on the field/go absolutely crazy in the sack. I can't remember her name but she rocked my world in 1995.
I never said no to any girl ever before I got married. Not many asked though.
However, if they were just flirting and wanted me to pursue, my standards were mildly higher (still ridiculously low if just to bang). My standards also varied by my alcohol content and the time of day. If I've been in a situation where I've had 10+ drinks and it was after midnight, the only standards I would really ever have had were: female, over 18, and human.
When I was trying to play hard to get.
I did a couple of times. I definitely regret it.
These questions on stuff such as rejections, are one that would seem to excite ladies more. Men have been given the role of running around to see if this or that lady was interested..so they "pretend" to tolerate the annoyance....To speak the blunt truth here most of the problems associated with , or result in accusations of men being "short sighted" and women "long sighted"(commitment) are created by the judges who are women. When the women get conditioned into this absolutely narrow lens of desirability.....and all these delusional dreams by Hollywood that are NOT part of reality...they end up clustering in big numbers on few men(and the few men will exploit that to the maximum-easy pickings-by common sense, if you were "swept off your feet" so quickly by this guy, you assume that its only in your case, and not every other girl on the block?). We have all turned into a bunch of actors and actresses on stage. I strongly wish there was not a biological imperative so these games would decisively cease."Oh if you like that girl act like you don't mean a thing" or if you are a chick "oh if you like him pretend like you don't have interest"...Oh if this guy looks to eager do that and this. Why do we waste time pretending and acting? Are we trying to fool ourselves or to fool others or what? That behavior is the very reason there are so many relationship based issues all over.
I don't reject girls.
They reject themselves.
Nope, never. I'm easy.
I've swiped left on a 9/10 before.
Rejecting 7s is one thing. Reject a 9 and watch what happens. She will react like the whole world is falling.
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