Hooked up with the wrong person

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So I've been thinking about this for a while now and kinda wanted to get your opinion on this. I was a SA at a top BB last summer and wanted to go FT at EB(EVR, LAZ, PJT) so I didn't care about anything and ended up hooking up with an Associate from a different group. Turns out I didn't get into EB and received FT from my BB and now I am about to start this fall. I don't know how to handle the awkwardness especially after that Associate added me on LinkedIn 2 weeks ago. We are not in the same group but I think I'll be seeing him once we go back to the office.

PS. We both are guys and straight (at least I am) and I have a girlfriend and I don't know what to do about this whole situation.

Comments (146)

 
  • CEO in Other
May 15, 2020 - 3:34am

oh no
https://i.ytimg.com/vi/pTTMzJpofLg/maxresdefault.jpg

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

 
  • Prospect in IB - Gen
May 9, 2020 - 2:32am

Dude it's more common than you think and just pretend nothing happened at least that's what HR told me

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May 9, 2020 - 2:42am

its not gay if you have your socks on

seriously just be cool about it. You would not believe how many people have hooked up in your office/friend groups/social circles that you would never have guessed; people are good at covering things up. We've all made some questionable decisions while drunk - it's totally normal if you both pretend its normal. I've personally hooked up with 2 of my friends in my closest circle while drunk and hooked up with a professor at my college before I was accepted (never had class but ran into them at a social function) and nobody knows anything about anything

 
May 9, 2020 - 3:15am

I would advise against telling your girl - if you hooked up with a girl you're best to avoid telling her about it imo, with a guy its 10x worse because people still have terrible stigma against bisexuality (not saying you are) but there's still so many girls who think any guy who has hooked up with a guy are 100% gay and not straight. Most girls aren't cool with it, they think you're gay, and might want to break up. So be cautious and smart.

 
  • Analyst 1 in IB - Ind
May 9, 2020 - 10:01am

for the first time EVER, you are dropping solid knowledge and wisdom while also mentioning getting fucked in the ass.

My Brother. My Captain. My King.
 
May 9, 2020 - 11:06am

Do NOT tell the girl!!

If it was nothing, and you're trying to minimize it, don't give it any air time. You aired enough here, got it off your chest, vented, DONE.

Over. Next. Accept the LinkedIn, be polite, in 2 minutes he'll know you have a girlfriend (who knows nothing), and it's history.

Do NOT tell her.

 
  • Prospect in IB-M&A
May 9, 2020 - 5:43am

First I thought you are a dude hooked up with a female associate,..

Then read this sentence "I think I'll be seeing him once we go back to the office" I thought ohhh so you're a female intern...

And then this sentence "We both are guys and straight (at least I am)"...what the fuck lolololol

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  • Analyst 2 in IB - Gen
May 9, 2020 - 1:22pm

It's high time that drunk office hook-ups included LGBTs. Jack accidentally banging Karen from compliance or whoever is so 20th century.

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  • Prospect in AM - Equities
May 9, 2020 - 6:06am

I'm 100% straight and sck dck because im comfortable with my sexuality

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  • Intern in IB-M&A
May 9, 2020 - 9:43am

actually am quite surprised and happy to see that most people aren't bashing him for being gay but are actually helping him out

 
  • Analyst 1 in IB - Ind
May 9, 2020 - 9:46am

TEA SO HOT

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May 9, 2020 - 10:08am

Mr.JoeBaskin:

PS. We both are guys and straight (at least I am) and I have a girlfriend and I don't know what to do about this whole situation.

They had us in the 1st half, not gonna lie

"They say money can't buy happiness? Look at the fuckin' smile on my face. Ear to ear, baby!" - Boiler Room

 
  • Analyst 1 in IB - Gen
May 9, 2020 - 10:30am

Look I’m sorry but if you’re attracted to other men in the slightest and then acted on it, you must tell your girlfriend. What someone said earlier about girls not being cool with it is true, but you might be surprised. My situation is the reverse and it’s always been better to be honest than have people find out from someone else (worst case).
P.S. straight people don’t have sex with the same sex. They almost always stay in the top region lol. Might want to reconsider your definition of “straight”

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  • Analyst 1 in IB - Gen
May 9, 2020 - 2:13pm

what in the whole fuck...between the story, the replies, everything. Not knocking you but in what world would you just hook up with a guy if you're straight. Also, is hooking up with dudes a normal thing (this thread kinda makes it seem that way)?? What is going on hahah

 
  • Analyst 1 in IB-M&A
May 9, 2020 - 2:25pm

It's not that it is common to hook up with dudes but this type of office hook ups happens all the time at most places. The funny thing about this post is the fact that it was between an intern(guy) and an Associate(guy) which also happens but no one knows/suppose to know about it.

 
  • Prospect in IB - Gen
May 9, 2020 - 2:29pm

It's more common than you think. You never had an MD/VP ask you stay late night to "work" on a deal during your intern days ?

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  • Intern in IB-M&A
May 9, 2020 - 3:06pm

This sounds like every frat bro after a game day

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  • Prospect in 
May 9, 2020 - 3:08pm

For all the gays out there in banking.

Do you guys use Grindr to sleep with guys in other divisions of the banks? and do you not find it awkward if one blocks you and you have to work with them?

does the app even work in most offices? Would you advise against using it? it is like the only way I meet people because I am not out

are the LGBT network just another way to meet many peeps and sleep around like in uni.

Also an incoming intern, how do i strike a balance between making a max out of grindr and doing good work.

TBH sex is kinda my drug. so do analyst work so much that they dont have a regular sex life?

 
May 9, 2020 - 5:06pm

Mr.JoeBaskin:

PS. We both are guys and straight (at least I am) and I have a girlfriend and I don't know what to do about this whole situation.

That hilarious af. It's time to go see a doctor my friend.

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May 9, 2020 - 8:03pm

Dude, I sucked my cousin's dick when I was younger. No big deal. We're as normal as can be, don't even talk about it during the holidays.

"Full speed ahead, damn the torpedoes." -U.S. Navy General Farragut
 
  • Intern in IB-M&A
May 10, 2020 - 2:11pm

BBCinIB:

Dude, I sucked my cousin's dick when I was younger. No big deal. We're as normal as can be, don't even talk about it during the holidays.

Yo wtf is happening to this website? I can no longer tell the blurred line between sarcasm and reality... We really are in a recession lol

 
  • VP in PE - LBOs
May 9, 2020 - 9:59pm

Reminds me of something funny that happened to me once

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  • Prospect in IB-M&A
May 10, 2020 - 1:14pm

So...you're a bitch ?

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  • Intern in IB-M&A
May 10, 2020 - 2:15pm

Yeah dude, both of you most certainly are not "straight". No one accidentally hooks up with a dude themselves unless there is some underlying homosexuality within. Straight up.

I suggest you seek professional help because you are bi at best which is no problem, I just think you need a real outlet other than WSO. This is me being honest, and being from LA so I have seen your kind a lot. It's doing you, your gf, your family, and friends no good if you are deep in the closet and think that this situation is normal. What you did is not heterosexual behavior. Please seek the right outlet and I can 100% say WSO is not it.

However, I'm 85% convinced this is a troll attempt, so job incredibly well done here.

 
May 10, 2020 - 4:43pm

So I was reading this an was like "well if this person added oyu, probably not a big deal... plus this happens somewhat often, c'est la vie, you'll be fine."

Then you hit us with the "P.S." and I am LOSING it

If this is real, buddy you got more important life stuff to figure out than just a workplace hookup. Good luck with your can of worms.

 
  • CEO in Other
May 10, 2020 - 11:31pm

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"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

 
May 11, 2020 - 5:11pm

I hadn't visited WSO in ages (a little too old, first made my username over a decade ago).

I missed this kind of trolling.

The truth is you're the weak. And I'm the tyranny of evil men. But I'm tryin', Ringo. I'm tryin' real hard to be the shepherd.
 
May 12, 2020 - 2:31pm

I just realized something. you did this last summer and are posting about it...9 months later? I have several questions

  1. what did you end up telling your girlfriend, if anything
  2. has this proven to be a one time thing or did you enjoy it so much you've gone back to the well
  3. who was top (v important)

if this is a troll, 10/10.

if this is not a troll, don't sweat it. I had 2 friends mess around with the same sex in/after college after having exclusively hetero relationships. one is back to being hetero (after a weird marriage to the same sex) and the other now has a higher same sex body count (likely was gay all along). both are happy, so I guess what I'm saying is, whatever makes you happy, do it.

 
May 13, 2020 - 4:10pm

Well this certainly changes how I will read future posts regarding BB....
Jokes aside if your seriously seeking guidance I would consider all the work it took to get to this opportunity, and try to move pass it. If you both really are attracted to women and somehow really just made mistakes then it shouldn't really matter. Hopefully he is as concerned about this as you are about it. I would absolutely address the subject before your working together to make sure your on the same page. If he isn't on the same page that doesn't make him a sexual predator you just have to tell him where you stand.

If your on the fence that certainly will thicken the plot, but regardless avoidance isn't going to make this go away., If your that worried have a couple of drinks before you make the call to discuss, apparently that really helps you relax....j/k..... There's no section in the U4 to report bicurious encounters, so keep it professional and carry on.

 
May 14, 2020 - 10:52pm

your gf: you cheated on me with my slutty gf didn't you?
you: no
your gf: how else can you explain the HIV?
you: my associate, Dan
your gf: oh....

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May 15, 2020 - 2:26pm

Listen Joe, do not sweat it for a second longer. Most of your wallstreet colleagues, associates, drinking buddies, and the folks responding here are likely gay. How else would you describe the constant, daily anal pounding ya'll receive during work hours?

 
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