Rude to not actually have a coffee during an informational interview over coffee?

I'll be traveling to NYC soon for networking and will be meeting with several wall street professionals for coffee in a single day. However, that would mean downing 5+ coffees in a single day which would be a serious caffeine overload.

I might be overthinking this but thoughts anyone? Would it be rude to not actually have a coffee during each of these meets? I could order a water or hot chocolate but part of me thinks that would come off as odd.

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Mar 28, 2016

Go early and order a hot chocolate or something

Mar 28, 2016

No, it's not odd. Ask them if they want coffee and if they do, pay for it and order for yourself as you please. Definitely don't order five drinks if you don't need them. Everyone knows coffee is just an excuse to talk.

Mar 28, 2016

If they order a coffee, I would order something too. You could also get decaf or tea.

Mar 28, 2016

recommend to order a coffee with a closed lid in your first talk, and then simply don't finish it. Nobody's going to notice how much you actually drink, just sip on it throughout the day.

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Mar 28, 2016

Use this as an opportunity to get accustomed to the 3-5 coffees per day you're likely to become reliant on shortly.

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Mar 28, 2016

No one is going to care at all. Grab a water, get decaf, get tea, etc. Just offer to pay, so that they can jump in and pay for both of you two.

Mar 28, 2016

No coffee is better than getting it with cream and sugar

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Mar 28, 2016

lol. go for tea

Mar 28, 2016

No one actually cares about the coffee. Get whatever you want to drink and worry about important shit instead.

Mar 28, 2016

You'll be fine. Get whatever you want.

Mar 29, 2016
CHItizen:

You'll be fine. Get whatever you want.

Get what ever you want - tea, water.. BUT, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, KEEP IT SIMPLE... Just don't be the guy that orders the double cream, soy milk, triple-shot frappuchino with a dab of mint, a spritz of carmel topped with white chocolate syrup but no sugar.. That's an auto-ding right there..

Mar 28, 2016

No pain, no gain..

Mar 28, 2016

Just get a sparkling water, tea, etc.

Mar 28, 2016

"oohh you like me so much that you came to watch me drink coffee"

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Mar 28, 2016

Nowadays coffee chats most likely happen in their office, which has nothing to do with coffee. I think I was roughly offered for coffee once in ten times.

Mar 28, 2016

Bring a bottle of Jack Daniel's and periodically swig it during your interview. Then they'll know who the real BSD is.

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Mar 29, 2016

"You know I'm honestly already caffeinated up for the day, I think I'll just get a tea" or just get the coffee and take a sip or pretend sip every now and then and don't actually drink it. Throw away when finished.

Drinking too much caffeine should be the least of your worries during these chats anyway...

Mar 29, 2016

Thanks for all the responses!!!

Mar 29, 2016

Probably just get some coffee and put a lot of sugar/cream in it.

Mar 29, 2016

Adults don't drink chocolate milk. Period. Ever.

Mar 29, 2016
DickFuld:

Adults don't drink chocolate milk. Period. Ever.

So if I came into work with a bacon,egg,&cheese and a bottle of Nesquik would I be made fun of? That's pretty much my breakfast everyday right now.

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Mar 29, 2016
DickFuld:

Adults don't drink chocolate milk. Period. Ever.

Reminds me of Arnold in Pumping Iron ... Milk is for babies, men should drink beer

Mar 29, 2016
DickFuld:

Adults don't drink chocolate milk. Period. Ever.

That is not even remotely true. Chocolate milk is a great recovery drink. I think you'll find that many who are far more athletically talented than you consume it.

Mar 29, 2016

It's the equivalent of ording chicken fingers and french fries at a steak house.

"This is the business we've chosen"!

Mar 29, 2016

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Mar 29, 2016

Honestly, I like to think that I'm non judgemental, but I'd look down on it. People like other people who are like them. I wouldn't want to put you in front of clients/LPs. If you absolutely can't drink tea/coffee get a bottle of water.

Please don't quote Patrick Bateman.

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Mar 29, 2016
DBCooper:

Honestly, I like to think that I'm non judgemental, but I'd look down on it. People like other people who are like them. I wouldn't want to put you in front of clients/LPs. If you absolutely can't drink tea/coffee get a bottle of water.

It's pretty funny how you're more likely to be an outcast on the street for your choice of drink then sexual orientation these days. Never saw that coming 15 years ago. Yet again, 15 years ago I was in elementary school and everybody was drinking chocolate milk. Maybe adult chocolate milk drinkers such as myself will one day become a protected class.

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Mar 29, 2016

If you really don't like coffee, at least get a hot chocolate.
Either that or sparkling water.

happy to give advice; no asking for referrals please

Mar 29, 2016

put chocolate milk in a coffee cup, and ask the guy to write coffee on the cup ( give him a nice tip). Problem solved.

Mar 29, 2016

Hahahahaha I'd laugh my ass off. Just get a diet coke or a water.

Mar 29, 2016

Unless your eating cake, brownies I wouldn't even think about it. And yes, a bacon/egg/cheese w/ Nesquik would not be deemed to be "peer level". I would try to hide it in, a travel coffee mug or say it was a protein shake b/c you're working out or some other excuse. But would never say it's my nesquick milk.

Just my $.02.

Mar 29, 2016
TX_golfer:

Unless your eating cake, brownies I wouldn't even think about it. And yes, a bacon/egg/cheese w/ Nesquik would not be deemed to be "peer level". I would try to hide it in, a travel coffee mug or say it was a protein shake b/c you're working out or some other excuse. But would never say it's my nesquick milk.

Just my $.02.

Unflavored milk is superior for pastry accompaniment. Gotta maintain a balance, hombre.

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

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Mar 29, 2016

You have colleagues who bother to see what you're having for breakfast...?

Currently: future psychiatrist (med school =P)
Previously: investor relations (top consulting firm), M&A consulting (Big 4), M&A banking (MM)

Mar 29, 2016

If it's a full-service place, get a mineral/sparking water. if it's a cafe/Sbux, get something (juice, iced tea) bottled. Just don't get milk.

Mar 29, 2016

Just get a coffee

Mar 29, 2016

Man up, get a latte if you don't like taste of coffee. They are sweeter.

Mar 29, 2016

You should be drinking orange juice with your breakfast sandwich if anything.

Mar 29, 2016

Strawberry milk shows more promise and contrarian thinking. Go with water or just order a coffee and let it cool down during the conversation if it really bothers you. I would just do what I want, who cares what others think.

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Mar 29, 2016
Mar 29, 2016

Dude who the fuck cares? Just do what you want. Don't be a pussy

Mar 29, 2016

True Story: When I was an analyst, I bought a quart of chocolate milk and kept it in the communal fridge. Everyone loved it so much that it became an office tradition, and to this day someone replenishes it every week.

That being said, yes, people will judge you. Unless you use a straw.

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Mar 29, 2016

What's sad is that I probably would order a burger or chicken fingers at a steak house. I'm a really picky eater and my diet is not much different from when I was 8 years old. I guess my taste buds never matured. I'm not a big fan of fancy restaurants. I'd much rather go to Wendy's and get a Baconator. Good thing I have zero interest in doing sales.

Mar 29, 2016
mastertrader89:

What's sad is that I probably would order a burger or chicken fingers at a steak house. I'm a really picky eater and my diet is not much different from when I was 8 years old. I guess my taste buds never matured. I'm not a big fan of fancy restaurants. I'd much rather go to Wendy's and get a Baconator. Good thing I have zero interest in doing sales.

Trololololol. Good work.

Mar 29, 2016

Buffett would get a cherry coke and a cheese burger. He wouldn't give a shit about what anyone else would think. But, you my friend, are no Warren Buffett.

Mar 29, 2016

drink white power milk in front of your superiors and you will be on a quick path to promotion

http://www.whitepowermilk.com/

i'm personally a fan of Sarah

What is the answer to 99 out of 100 questions?

Mar 29, 2016

this reminds me of when i interviewed a kid who took a doggy bag home from lunch. real men of genius.

Mar 29, 2016

Haha, can we get more on this?

Were you just thinking he's a pussy that can't finish his meal or just thinking he's a tool for making the effort to get it wrapped for later. Personally, this would bother me not at all but I still think it's kinda funny.

Mar 29, 2016

I've since started liking tea; however, something that I did in a few informational interviews that were over coffee last year was that I would order a large tea, and then quickly take out the tea bags. Tea is a normal drink (at least I think it is) and it is totally normal for different people to enjoy different strength of tea. So, by doing this, you can basically get away with just sipping on warm water. And although I'm not a professional so I can't say for certain, I would have to imagine that if you cannot perceiver through a few sips of something that doesn't quite agree with your taste buds, you probably won't be able to perceiver through a career in banking; however, that is just my uneducated guess.

Mar 29, 2016

Compromise and get a mocha from Jacques Torres...respect

Mar 29, 2016

I actually thought the OP had posted a sex related question.

Mar 29, 2016

I do love chocolate milk, but I wish my more important questions got this much action. I'm kind of lost with no direction right now, trying to break into trading, so if anybody can help me with my other threads I'd greatly appreciate it:

http://www.wallstreetoasis.com/forums/considering-...

http://www.wallstreetoasis.com/forums/no-relevant-...

Don't get me wrong, chocolate milk etiquette is still very important.

Mar 29, 2016

Get water

Mar 29, 2016

It's not a problem but definitely when you are talking about others then they may think it as a children's drink. Moreover, some people may also take it as you are health conscious.

Mar 29, 2016

If you don't feel comfortable ordering chocolate milk just get one of these bad boys:

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Mar 29, 2016

CapriSuns are only acceptable if stabbed from the bottom.

Mar 29, 2016
Going Concern:

If you don't feel comfortable ordering chocolate milk just get one of these bad boys:

Capri Suns are good, but I'm more of a Berry Blue Kool-Aid Bursts kind of guy. Bought a 6-pack earlier in the year actually. I saw them at Walmart and just couldn't resist.

Mar 29, 2016

Go with muscle milk.

Mar 29, 2016
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Mar 29, 2016