Hey Guys,
I am in no way a pervert or anything, but during a team meeting a female associate caught me staring at her boobs (I really didn't mean to). I could see from her reaction that she thought that it was totally inappropriate. How do I handle this situation? Should I speak to her the next time and apologize?
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Lol
Total LOL.
definitely speak to her and give her an honest apology and take responsibility for the situation (even if you just zoned out and happened to be staring there)
“Sorry bout the jug glance “ lol
Holy shit I can’t think of anything more painfully embarrassing or out of touch than apologizing to a girl you work with for glancing at her boobs
OP given the timing this is most likely a troll, but just move on assuming this actually happened
congrats for giving the worst advice possible
SIMP
WSO MODS, arrest this SIMP
"Sorry for staring at you during yesterday's meeting, there's just something about you...I think it's your boobs"
I don’t see why you would do anything about this, you looked at someone’s boobs so what? If She has a huge problem shouldn’t be out there. Just don’t touch, I mean if you were zoned out starring for like a few mins that’s just weird and at that point don’t bring it up because you’d sound like a weirdo. I see girls look at me some time, no big deal long as they don’t slap my ass or something
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Absolutely don't apologize. If you apologize you are admitting fault. Do you apologize every time you walk in a few min late? Of course not, you don't want to draw attention to yourself and admit that you did something wrong
Just avoid her and don’t do it again, any attempt to explain may be rejected or taken the wrong way.
Go with flow on this 1. Just act like everything is normal. It's not a big deal
absolutely...pull her aside to someplace private where just the 2 of you are alone..and tell her
"i'm sorry i was staring at your breasts...i just couldn't help myself...i'll try to resist in the future"
a soft lick would pair well
Ask if you can touch them next time you see her, should do the job
Do NOT apologize bro. This happens. Just act casual and normal moving forward. A situation like this only has the power that you give it (I.e attention).
Every time you talk to her from now on just make obvious eye contact.
youtu.be/Zx3hmV7eD8E
This is what comes to mind lol.
Classic!
Female associate here... don’t apologize. It happens all the time. Apologizing would just be making something out of nothing. We daze off and stare at guys too, it happens, we’re young, NBD.
Could be worse - at least you didn't get caught by a male associate staring at his boobs.
Don't acknowledge it.
Never happened.
Fake news.
I am laughing hysterically, from title to final comment! This is REALLY FUNNY.
Ah, times have changed, but evolution hasn't. (Thankfully!)
As a woman, it would not bother me personally. It's perfect ammo for future use. Great opportunity to get you back, preferably using embarrassment tactics. All in good fun, of course.
I really would not apologize, and next time, pick another girl to stare at. Be stealth!
And yes, it's happened to me.
Why do I get the feeling you're a chubster living in his parent's basement?
Because you're a silly kid, that's why, and I'm old enough to be your mother, so zip it.
Not sure if I've been watching too much Curb Your Enthusiasm, but this scenario is giving me strong LD vibes lmao
ha, this made me think of Curb as well...such an amazing show
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Definitely strong curb vibes
Lol yes I was thinking of this/the rehearsal scene. cheers
I mean if you glanced at a girls boobs and feel bad. well you might be gay.
The doc recommends a healthy course of buttsex (no pitching, only catching) to test this hypothesis
female analyst. apologizing makes something out of nothing. act normal. dont avoid her or anything. be normal and try to have your focused face on even if you’re tired. one time my associate was like why are you giving me dirty looks? i was like I wasnt even looking at you. i am just tired
Are you ugly? If you're somewhat attractive, might be able to progress from glancing at jugs to drinking out those jugs?
Ahahhahah. ‘ya the girl looked at me, I’m pretty sure she’s down’
Double down. If she calls you out you can deny deny deny til you die.
I think you should immediately let the person know in a private setting if she’ll even let you in a private setting that you cannot help yourself do you are recovering from the loss of - make up something like cat or puppy. tell her you want to give her a baby
where does one buy an apology baby?
Yup, say "Sorry, but I could not resist".
"Those babies were calling my name!!!"
SB for the best username I've EVER seen.
Are you sure you're not a quant?
Cuck is also another word for quant, so cross check that too
I did a spit take. Too funny.
With all the Coronavirus posts right now, this was a funny distraction.
Came here for the comments and it did not disappoint. LOL
Was size were those babies?
36DD
Tell her she makes a lovely couple
In all seriousness, under NO CIRCUMSTANCES should you speak to her about this. You could lose your job. You could get sued. If anyone (she or management) calls you on this stare, just tell them you actually were just spacing out, staring into the air and thinking about something else, likely due to overwork. You were tired and staring bleary-eyed into nothing, thinking about other stuff. You were NOT in any way staring at her. If she pushes the matter, continue to deny it. Don't turn a random stare into a career-ending mistake. Has no one on WSO heard about #metoo movement and sexual harassment? You want this kid walking into the HR buzzsaw? Dude, HR's job these days is to axe risks like you at the very idea of a SH lawsuit. Just keep your damn trap shut, and don't stare at colleague boobs anymore. You go take lunch trips to Palmdale if you have to, but keep yourself out of HR's way.
you should ask her out on a date
Definitely don't apologize. Act like it never happened and move on.
One of my bosses tripped over staring at mine. I asked for a promotion the next day.
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