Female Associate caught me staring at her boobs

Hey Guys,

I am in no way a pervert or anything, but during a team meeting a female associate caught me staring at her boobs (I really didn't mean to). I could see from her reaction that she thought that it was totally inappropriate. How do I handle this situation? Should I speak to her the next time and apologize?

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definitely speak to her and give her an honest apology and take responsibility for the situation (even if you just zoned out and happened to be staring there)

 

I don’t see why you would do anything about this, you looked at someone’s boobs so what? If She has a huge problem shouldn’t be out there. Just don’t touch, I mean if you were zoned out starring for like a few mins that’s just weird and at that point don’t bring it up because you’d sound like a weirdo. I see girls look at me some time, no big deal long as they don’t slap my ass or something

 

Absolutely don't apologize. If you apologize you are admitting fault. Do you apologize every time you walk in a few min late? Of course not, you don't want to draw attention to yourself and admit that you did something wrong

 

I am laughing hysterically, from title to final comment! This is REALLY FUNNY.

Ah, times have changed, but evolution hasn't. (Thankfully!)

As a woman, it would not bother me personally. It's perfect ammo for future use. Great opportunity to get you back, preferably using embarrassment tactics. All in good fun, of course.

I really would not apologize, and next time, pick another girl to stare at. Be stealth!

And yes, it's happened to me.

 

Are you ugly? If you're somewhat attractive, might be able to progress from glancing at jugs to drinking out those jugs?

 

I think you should immediately let the person know in a private setting if she’ll even let you in a private setting that you cannot help yourself do you are recovering from the loss of - make up something like cat or puppy. tell her you want to give her a baby

 

In all seriousness, under NO CIRCUMSTANCES should you speak to her about this. You could lose your job. You could get sued. If anyone (she or management) calls you on this stare, just tell them you actually were just spacing out, staring into the air and thinking about something else, likely due to overwork. You were tired and staring bleary-eyed into nothing, thinking about other stuff. You were NOT in any way staring at her. If she pushes the matter, continue to deny it. Don't turn a random stare into a career-ending mistake. Has no one on WSO heard about #metoo movement and sexual harassment? You want this kid walking into the HR buzzsaw? Dude, HR's job these days is to axe risks like you at the very idea of a SH lawsuit. Just keep your damn trap shut, and don't stare at colleague boobs anymore. You go take lunch trips to Palmdale if you have to, but keep yourself out of HR's way.

 

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