Its now 8:30pm and I've been toiling all day and night on something given to me yesterday at 2am. To all the ladies around, what is the best way to solicit action? Do you just approach a girl and be frank, or do you start on a different path?
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"To all the ladies around"
You should be careful posting this, you're gonna end up with hundreds of responses considering the female constituency of this board.
fuck off zala
why? all i was saying was that there's probably like ONE female that posts here with any regularity whatsoever.
Whats your relationship with her now?
dont know her
Explain yourself. Does she work with you? Is she your neighbor?
Do you just want to sleep with her, or do you want more?
she works with me. and i want both -that and more.
invite her out for drinks if you guys get out before 11pm one night...then invite her back to your place. never ask or "be up front"...by asking her out YOU ARE BEING UP FRONT. (she isn't stupid)if she agrees to go out drinking with you and agrees to go back to your place, enough said. you don't have to spell out that you like her and want to hook up, she will know it. doing so will only make you look like you are searching for approval or an "answer" and that takes all the fun out of the chase. (and will lower your chances by about 100% since you will absolutely obliterate any mystery you have) Just play it cool and try to get yourself in the proper situation
post an ad on craigslist in the casual encounters part of the it. Say something like "2_ year old I-banker, looking to release some pressure" then post up your pic from the neck down and get ready for all the gold digging punani
dude thats creepy.
It was a joke, Dan (albeit not a very good one). Don't you like jokes?
yeah, thats what i would normally do, but i cannot be rejected from this chick, as i see her everday. we need a more subtle way
"but i cannot be rejected from this chick, as i see her everday. we need a more subtle way"
alright, Dan, i know you hold a deep loathing toward me, but i seriously think you should hear this, if you haven't considered it: you have the wrong attitude to begin with. you CANNOT care if you get rejected. tiptoeing around this problem with the constant worry that something weird will go wrong because she's always at the office will result in terrible game on your part. to paraphrase a very wise man: not giving a fuck about the outcome of a conversation, or the night in general, is possibly THE most important thing.
i agree with Zala...either you need to live by the mantra that chicks from work are off limits or you just go for it. Otherwise, you're in danger of developing a seriuously debilitating obsession.
I can't decide if this is a legitimate question or if it's a poor attempt at getting Mis Ind to engage in another deep conversation.
Hilarious, either way.
na dude, its a serious attempt
Why not ask one of your friends for advice, instead of an IB messageboard?
Dan, i don't think asking a girl out for drinks is that "obvious". you would go out with a guy colleague for drinks, so why not a girl, right?
also, some background would be helpul: 1. how often do you see her/talk? 2. do you have good rapport with her already? or only talk to her once in a while? 3. has she given you any indication that she might be interested in you (not a prerequisite, but would help)?
I agree with the other guys, your attitude is defeating you before you even get going. "I cannot get rejected from this chick, I see her every day" how are you ever going to have game when in the back of your mind you're always thinking about that. along those lines, are you SURE you want to do this? it could get REAL ugly if you do end up dating this chick and things don't work out a few months down the road -- unless you (or she) is planning on leaving your firm in the next year or so you really have to ask yourself "is it worth the risk?"
if you're talking about a "serious attempt" then make it serious. You can be subtle if you are put in the right situation. so many guys underestimate this and get ahead of themselves. if she's willing to go out for drinks with you (and just you), that is a huge positive. if not, how the hell are you going to feel the situation out. if you're out drinking together you should easily be able to pick up on some cues with some harmless flirting. (is she close to you? is she touching your arm?, laughing a lot?, playnig with her hair?, etc) no outright "rejection" is needed. you can be subtle and should be able to tell whether she's game way before you "make a move".
Whatever you do...DON'T get involved with a female colleague.
b/c when youre toiling away all day and night, its just easier
i see her on a daily basis. there is some chesmistry, i see it in the way she acts, but she is shy. i no she wont make a move. i can make a move, but again, i see her everyday. so if i am misreading the chemistry, it will not be good for our work.
There are some love stories in every office, but you've really got the odds against you given how many men there are in the office compared to the amount of women :) Then, when you start counting the amount of HOT women, it looks even more impossible :)
You're in an IB - you know statistics... keep on dreaming, but don't rush out to buy KY gel just yet.
His advice will not lead you astray
if you do end up with her (best case scenario) it'll be like you NEVER leave the office. Unless she works in HR/ another department then I'd steer clear.
On the HR note - I'd actually steer clear of that too, I know some guys in our office who've been burnt. Worlds of pain.
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