Have you ever met with such circumstance as I described in the headline? (I sent personalized invitation messages). I often do. I know there is no need to think too much about that, but I am just feel a little bit upset. (I'm an international student with a master degree)
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I don't accept LinkedIn invites from people I haven’t met and generally I never accept them from students unless there is a connection unrelated to campus recruiting. So if it’s not clear to me from your initial message if I know you or not, I may view your profile to confirm.
She needs to get laid.
Bet she followed this up with a public post about how LinkedIn isn't a dating site and for people to stop harassing her. Don't know why I've seen so many of these lately - ignore and move on.
She looks like she works at Karen Partners Ltd
Imagine being married to her or someone with her personality. gasp
Would you accept an invitation from an SA in your building?
I see no issue with this. Some people accept, and some people don’t. I focus on the ones that do. No harm in trying, and no harm in denying.
I accept almost everyone, but I have it set so that nobody can view my connections.
Edit: Why is this so unpopular?
Edit: I do this because I wouldn't want to risk some bozo finding an MD and being like "Hi, I got your information from X"
I’m guilty of this, but I do it because I used to just accept everyone that added me and then one day my LinkedIn feed was full of students congratulating themselves for overcoming first world problems to land a job at Piper. Especially if you don’t even include a cover message introducing yourself, I don’t see why I would add more spam to my feed. I also don’t get why students randomly add professionals and never introduce themselves or try to make use of a connection. Is there something cool about seeing 500+ connections on your profile?
Good point on the feed pollution. It’s like, I don’t care about you announcing your internship and thanking a bunch of people. And then you also see their friends’ stuff when they like it. Just a complete annoyance that adds no value.
you can unfollow
"Despite all the recent setbacks in my life (eg wifi being out Thursday afternoon) I am overjoyed to announce that I will attend Goldman's Virtual Insight Series".
https://twitter.com/WallStreetOasis/status/1336428721771851786
When I connect with bankers I don’t tend to send them a message on LinkedIn, but instead email them later on in the week after we’ve connected.
That’s still weird and poor organization. When I get your email, I won’t remember your name trying to add me a week back because I still haven’t met you yet.
You’re also doing yourself a disservice because a LinkedIn add is a touch point you can keep in your pocket to follow up with after you’ve met someone willing to help you. For example, I’ve told students before that I’d help them by referring them for an interview through our internal portal and then gotten jammed up by work as soon as we got off the initial call. When those students send me an add request on LinkedIn a few days later, it’s a gentle reminder for me that we spoke and I promised to help you.
But a student adding me blind when we’ve never spoken or met or if we don’t even share that many common connections doesn’t inspire me to accept the add or think anything of them. In fact, I tend to (probably unfairly) assume that student has poor EQ and thus am less likely to even want to speak with them even if I remember their name when they follow up with an email. Big caveat here is that everyone thinks differently about these things so my way isn’t standard by any means - just one person’s approach and opinion.
Tbh, when I was a freshman, yeah it was kinda cool to see 500+.......
If you are taking this very minor rejection personally, you may not have the minerals to pursue a career in a field where even MDs get ignored or told to go away by clients.
doesn't have the cojones
I used to accept everyone but then my feed became filled with complete shit, so I began unconnecting with people I didn't know and pretty much only accepting invitations from people I know directly or work at my bank
I look at the profile to see if worth accepting or not. Usually the answer is no. As others have said, too much shit to deal with and useless connections.
again, class of 2024 coming in with the cringe
This one time I sent an InMail message to someone. They saw the message, saw my profile, didn't reply, didn't accept connection request. Don't be upset, move the f on
I usually do this if someone reaches out to me asking for help and I know I can't help them, so I just ignore.
Standard international student issue
It happens and sometimes its warranted and sometimes it is not.
Warranted: Like the very first commenter said, I don’t really like to be added by students (or anyone really) with whom I don’t share an alma mater, friend etc. Personally I think it’s a bit stupid when I get added by people I don’t know and they don’t even send me an accompanying message. What is the motivation? Who are you? What have we to gain from becoming connections? Explain! I don’t believe in adding people just for the sake of having more connections. And I don’t believe in the “add now, find out why later” argument. This isn’t IG goddamnit. LinkedIn’s feed is trash and a cesspit of self congratulatory a-holes, both corporate and individual. I try to spend as little time on LinkedIn as I possibly can so make me feel like it worth my time to talk to you. I went to a target grad school and believe me, the piss poor quality intro messages or lack thereof have nothing to do with that, it’s simply how much effort people are willing to put in. I cannot tell you how many times I don’t get one or I get one riddled with typos and even being called the wrong name! This is your first impression and I don’t care what all the morons in school and HR tell you, this is finance and first impressions matter.
Unwarranted: As a Student you realistically try to find an “in” any way you can, we’ve all been there. I think it takes guts to write to someone you’ve never met and ask for help. However, this is why you have to nail the delivery. If possible only add people you have zero in common with AFTER you have exhausted all possibilities. Now, if someone sends me a message and I have something in common with them or, better yet, they tell me they’ve been referred to me by someone I know then hell yeah I’ll look at their profile and reply, even just as a courtesy to that connection we have in common. But you need to say this when you add me on LinkedIn! I know though that even after you found a reasonable connection with them, and sent them a decent message, there are people who will read your message, look at your profile and then never bother to get back to you. In the eyes of a student and in my eyes that makes you a dick. I’m sorry but it’s the truth. I get that you’re busy, we all are, but if someone made a decent effort to get in touch the least you can do is reply to them and talk to them for 10 minutes on the phone.
TL;DR: If after finding someone who have something/someone in common with and sending a decent message they look at your profile and don't get back to you then forget them; if they can't make 10mins to speak to you they won't be of any help to you. BUT make sure your approach really is airtight.
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