Where the f*ck are the ambitious/succesful women at?
I've been living in a new city in the U.S for about 6 months now and have been using all the dating apps.
The only thing I see are 23-26 year olds who are elementary teachers or waitresses, libtards with blue/pink hair who are probably unemployed with only "BLM and ACAB" in their profiles , and landwhales.
Where the fuck/what can I do to find a women who actually has ambition, a succesful career, or career goals that doesn't involve being a minimum wage slave
What sorts of women do you expect to find on fucking dating apps?
Bars are closed, gym is full of dudes, and I don't go out much because of pandemic and crushing workload
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I found my fiance on a dating app. It's a numbers game. Make sure you filter before going on a date. I recommend coffee date for date #1 so it can be cut off if things are not really compatible quickly so you don't burn time or money.
Had the best experience with Bumble but didn't find my fiance there. I think it really depends on the city.
Good to hear someone successful has had success with dating apps. I tried them for a while but it was disastrous. As you elude to above, filtering is definitely important!
- Salsa dancing or dance as a hobby in general, usually twice as many girls than guys
- High-end bars where after work crowds end up (after WFH)
- Hotels & business centers & conferences (a LOT of people meet their partners through work)
- Get female friends who you don't sleep with. So many of my friends have found their lawyer/doctor/.. wives and girlfriends through their social circle. Ask your friends to introduce you to their ladies. Huge advantage! They will go through their lists and come up with great girls. And less hassle too, most filters are already applied when it comes to income, faith, political party, race, looks, etc
Just a college kid but this advice (especially the female friends part) is the advice that I get from very successful guys (in terms of lays/dating). At the risk of being controversial to white knights or whoever, women are attracted to men who have value (shown through attraction from other females)
They're not on WSO.
They're around, probably just ducking when they see you come around haha.
way to end a man's career hahaha
Dating apps work. I’ve seen them work for friends and even worked for me. It’s a numbers game. I had best luck with Hinge.
Yes to Hinge.
Why are you looking for an A-type woman?
I used to date an A-type for many years, and once things broke off I was on the hunt for another. Went on a handful of dates with other A-type women, which were ok, but eventually one of my best mates proposed the above question to me... and I reconsidered my search process.
I'm now dating a woman with a normal 9-5. They're not all "blue/pink haired" you know... some just prefer focusing on things outside of work, like real hobbies and developing strong relationships. She's still just as smart as the A-types, but much more relaxed, nurturing, happy, and has overall been super valuable to my life. Having a woman who offers a different perspective, while holding solid values and appreciates your hard work is a wonderful woman to have in your life. Imagine this - you come home after a long, stressful day of work... and your girl has a warm meal prepared, your favorite drink poured, and the energy to engage in a stimulating conversation that isn't related to work.
I'd recommend giving these types a shot.
For me Type A does not mean Finance Hardess...just someone who is motivated and wants to achieve difficult things in life. Whether those goals or achievements have to do with work, social life, money, fitness, reading, etc, it doesn't matter. I want someone who knows what they are doing and HOW they are going to do it.
I've dated 2 or 3 "blue hair" liberal girls and I've loved them more than anyone else because they are not only different than I am, but they are usually justmore happy.
I'm just 6 months into a job and literally know no one outside my personal trainer.
Simp
Ok, so aren't those blue/pink haired libs passionate about social issues? Is that really more ridiculous than you wanting someone who is passionate about "reading"? No offence, but it sounds like you have no idea what you actually want - which is ok. But better to define exactly what you're looking for before hunting for the best medium to find these women.
Well according to half the other sensationalized threads about dating on here, ambitious women with demanding careers are horrible people and don’t make good wives/girlfriends. As a woman in finance, I don’t really know what to tell you other than that smart, hard-working, fun women without a superiority complex do exist. Most of my friends (finance or not) use dating apps - Hinge specifically. Other safe bets would be through mutual friends or once COVID is over, at solid post-work happy hour bars or at the gym. Through industry events/networking can get a little iffy if people want to keep the environment more professional, but I’ve seen it go down that way too.
I will always prefer a smart “career girl” over a complacent one with ample free time to complain about my workload and take pictures of her food with the flash on.
The trick is to find the ones who can leave their Type A tendencies in the office. They do exist and they are exponentially more interesting, “stimulating” and, truth be told and I know you interns care about this, street cred-conferring among higher ups than a sweet girl with a 9-5 in fashion, marketing, teaching or whatever 98% of females do.
The guys who boast about the nurturing part time librarians waiting for them at home are those who could only pull the intense bitter girls of those with real jobs, not the sane ones.
She’s not going to fuck you bro, but way to white knight on the internet.
All jokes aside, I do think he makes a valid point. I have come across a few hyper-competitive female peers in the industry, and their aggression can be a lot to handle. Similar to how I don’t enjoy being around men who can’t have a conversation about anything other than deals and are always complaining about being overworked, I don’t enjoy being around women like that either. I just want to do my job well because I like job security and doing/having nice things & hobbies - so it can get a little frustrating feeling like some men automatically discount a relationship with a woman in finance just because she isn’t a guaranteed Suzy Homemaker.
Fair, but there is a wide gap between ball buster finance hardette and Suzy Homemaker. This is the thing though, high achieving women, even chiller ones, are just in a tough spot.
First, let’s not lie, a vast majority of high achieving women are seeking a partner who is at the same level or higher in terms of both prestige and salary. You’re not looking to date the high school teacher or 9-5 accountant. And second, at least when I seriously dated it was because I was looking for a potential wife and future mother to my kids. Others may argue, but assuming a couple wants at least two or three kids, then it’s borderline negligent to have two high achieving careerist parents that always put work first. That doesn’t mean someone has to stay at home, but someone almost certainly has to throttle back on their career significantly and put the kids first. If someone won’t do that, then wtf did the two people have kids in the first place? Also, I don’t care if that someone is the man, as my mom was the main breadwinner in my family and my parents have been married for 40 years, but this goes back to the first point and can cause a lot of relationship strife, like it or not.
Simply put, if you’re a career oriented man who also wants a family, it’s just a way better bet to find a type-B partner who has her shit together, but has a career that isn’t a key focus of her life. If a couple doesn’t want kids, then go ahead and be that power couple.
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