Dating in NYC
Okay ngl, I have been hearing some horror stories recently on how impossible dating is with
- IB hours
- Women in NYC
What is it really like? Am I going to be an Incel for the next couple years????
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I am from the midwest, and I went to a big 10 school, so I guess I'm unfamiliar with city life if that is relevant
Dating in nyc is like shooting fish in a barrel. Good selection, all hair colors, women with ambition and decent quality. Less stuck up than LA girls who all think they are celebrities and want someone in the biz. NYC has so many different girls from all industries.
If you are tall, attractive, work in finance - you will have no problem at all.
In your experience, has it been difficult to find a girl willing to settle down especially with the hours that make it tough to find the time?
lot of sexy bitches looking for guys with stable, high paying careers because they want to be in nyc but struggle to afford it
I didn't find it very difficult in my time (I moved away), but I doubt that it will be more difficult now. given the pandemic and economy we are in, there will be a lot of people struggling with life (both men and women).
If you are a decent guy with a stable job, not a psycho, not fat (you don't have to look like a supermodel, but avoid stuffing your face with fast food every day and work out a bit) - I don't see the problem. Whether you are willing to settle down with someone is not only up to her, but also you. NYC has any race, religion, hair color, weight, height or anything you could possibly want in a woman. It is also very easy to meet and connect in a densely populated city.
I remember driving 2 hours and 15 minutes (one way) to go on a date in Los Angeles. When I arrived at her place I had zero interest in anything, traffic was that bad. Imagine driving almost 5 hours for every single date.....
A lot of guys focus on their weaknesses ("I am not tall enough", "I am fat", "I don't make enough", "I am the wrong ethnicity") - focus on your strengths instead. With some effort, you can really improve yourself (work out, eat right, sleep right, no alcohol, no tobacco, no drugs).
If you are tall and attractive you don’t have a problem anywhere lmao what a useless take
Do you know how many short and not-so-attractive men I know who are married to great women? Quite a few!
Short is relative, I don't know that many super tall girls. Men should be alright when they are taller than the girl they are dating, I think that is the main requirement for most of them.
And who are we to decide who is attractive and who isn't? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Are girls very against guys under 5ft9 in the city?
I’m 5 7.5 (you know I’m short cause I had to add the .5). If a girl doesn’t want to date you cause you’re short, you didn’t want to date her anyway. Don’t be a simp and chase girls.
My shorter friends have women hitting on them all the time. One looks like a supermodel, the other looks fairly regular. It’s all about carrying yourself with confidence and having a good sense of humor.
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All about setting expectations. Make it known right off the bat you work a lot of hours and just have to be able to work around your crazy schedule. A lot of girls out there will work with you as long as you put in effort too. That means taking an Uber to her place at 8pm to spend some time with her but still having your laptop open and working on things. Yea you are working but at least you are with her and can give her some attention. That goes a along way. Or taking an hour or so dinner break and meeting her near by.
It's really not that bad, if you do set expectations in terms of hours early then they'll understand you're doing what you can to allocate time for them. As well, there are SO many options. Dating apps, bars (not so much anymore I guess)... So many quality women out there
There are a lot of overgeneralizing posts on here that are like "if you are younger than 26 and can't go on dates every day, you will never find love" so I get the stress, but the NYC dating anxiety is bit overblown imo so don't worry. Each city has its unique dating challenges, but I would argue it's just as tough in NYC than anywhere else. The benefit here in the City is there are going to be a ton of women with equally demanding schedules who get your hours. If you are looking for something more long-term just be upfront about it and trust me, you will find someone who is aligned. Might not be the first girl you meet but to think there are zero 22 year olds (assuming you want to date someone your age) who want something real is absurd and a self-fulfilling prophecy. There are just as many IB analysts with girlfriends as without so clearly, it can be done.
I think the earlier comment about the effect of the pandemic on COVID is a really good point. Def think people have come to realize how lonely they really are when the distractions of the City are gone and want something more meaningful than hook-up culture had to offer.
If you have good taste in women, as I do then dating in NYC is hell. Why? Because there are no attractive women in that city. New York is Plain Jane central. Its as if there is something genetically defective about New Yorkers. And not just native born NYers but girls who move there and even tourists visiting are rarely hot. Its as if there is a secret memo that attractive females get warning them to stay away from NYC. Let the nerdy and hipster girls own the place, while the hotties migrate to LA and Miami
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This is so false it’s painful, Miami is better if you like fat chicks. LA can kind of compete but falls short still
this is almost as bad as Stratguy's post - fat chicks in Miami??
We can tell who isn’t clapping any cheeks lol. My guy has to convey his insecurities on here to reassure himself that his shortcomings aren’t his own.
Tbh I thought it wouldn't be possible (just an intern so obv can't speak to it yet), but I'm from a pretty slow-paced small town, so I can't imagine women or anyone really being patient enough with potential dates to make it work. I get it if you go into a demanding career with someone you've been with, but why would someone new be patient enough when theres a million other strangers to meet for a first date?
If they really like them
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