What do you look for in an SO that you want to spend the rest of your life with

Specifically, how do you answer this question if you're looking for a relationship but don't want to scare the person off or come accross as desperate ? But wanna make it know that you don't do "casual" or "hookups".

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user555, what's your opinion? Comment below:

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Isaiah_53_5 💎🙌💎🙌💎, what's your opinion? Comment below:
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parmesan123123, what's your opinion? Comment below:

In a life partner, you probably have to think beyond the things that make a good hookup or a girlfriend. To be 'hook up' material, she is probably hot and fun/exciting in bed. If she is 'girlfriend' material, she gotta be cute but also presentable/sociable and have some level of maturity. To be wife/lifelong partner material, you need to think about going through life with her- how does she handle finances? Does she agree with you on key religious/ethical issues? Do you see her raising your kids? Would you want her to be a role model to your daughter? You can easily date someone perfectly fine, but it gets hard when you're married and the topic of what religion to raise your kids comes up.

To answer your second question, there is nothing wrong with being frank about wanting a relationship. It all just depends on how you phrase it. It might come off as creepy to be so obsessed with finding 'the one,' but saying/putting in your dating app bio "I'm not looking for hookups" or "I'm looking for a relationship" is perfectly normal and anyone who rejects you because of that probably rejected you because they were looking for a hookup. Some dating apps like bumble (and I'm pretty sure hinge) have a toggle in your profile where you can show what you're looking for (casual, relationship, marriage, unsure, etc...).

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johnny-mnemonic, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Positive attitude is the number one thing for me. No matter what goes right or wrong I want her to be a problem solver driven by the same vision for our future. I don't have time for 'this will never work'. There's also an element of willingness where anything either of us wants to go do, the other is nearly always down. It helps get us out of the house and spend time doing unique things together. When your time off is rare it's so much better to fill it with something you'll remember.

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daichi, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I absolutely love this, it's so much easier to move forward in life when thinking rationally than emotionally 24/7. It's easier to come up with plans and make memorable experiences when both parties can contribute meaningful input, and like you said, makes it so much better when you fill up each others free time. 

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daichi, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Ambitious, yet down to earth. Someone who started from the bottom and climbed their way to the top. I find it very hard to relate to those who didn't grow up with poor backgrounds, so finding those who are similar to me is absolutely essential (for me, at least). I absolutely hate the go with the flow type of mentality because while yes it does provide more short term happiness, what about stability? It's something I personally crave and I'd hope that my partner seeks the same. It's boring but I'm not much of a spontaneous person

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IncomingIBDreject, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Everybody is going to answer with the socially acceptable answer for this, which usually isn't reality. 

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user555, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Thing is this is totally anonymous so I don't get why some people say what they don't mean

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