What does your SO do for a living? (or what do you wish they did?)
Since I became single a few months ago I have been thinking a lot about what job I would want my next longterm gf / wifehopeful to have. Personally I think I would never ever again want to be in a relationship with someone who works in law, finance or consulting. An acceptable role could be marketing (maybe? heard that can get very stressful and attract domineering personalities too?) or architecture?
I also dont think I can deal with low iq chicks anymore no matter how hot they are. So no hairdressers, pornstars, tattoo artists, models, nurses (I fucking hate nurses) etc..
Which leads me to the conclusion that the perfect carrier for my SO would be either dentist, fine art auctioneer at Christie's, Sotheby's, Phillips or a scientist doing biomed research (they tend to be kind, smart people).
Thoughts?
Your SO works????? Cheaper for one person to stay home with kids.
I never had interest in marrying a 32yo buzzsaw who froze her eggs at 30yo and “wants to wait and travel”
This made me LOL
My wife worked in credit making good $, and we both agreed she would quit since she didn't like it anyways and become a stay at home mom. She quit a year or so ago and we have our first kid coming soon.
She manages all of our tax obligations, and underwrites our investments into things like REPE funds too which she likes doing and is good at.
Basically anything that doesn’t fall into the exciting and fun department, she likes a lot for some reason, so we are a good team lol. There’s no way I would look at RE stuff normally lol. 😂
You found the perfect one. Congratulations, your experience is rare and thanks for sharing. Sadly, I have met/dated too many “ its all about me women”.
I had a way better experience dating in T2 and T3 cities than T1 btw. I think the culture is just...better in a lot of ways. Or it is for what I was looking for. I don't think I would have found a wife like this in the T1 city I am from as my experience was definitely more like yours.
9-5 middle office job at a bank. Plan is to convert to stay-at-home once we have kids
May god bless my soul with a marketing girl
I dated one & she had pretty bad hours for the poor money she was making
You have issues if you're filtering future SOs by occupation. Love who they are, not what they do.
huh? a job is part of who they are, they spend literally half their waking time doing it, they presumably chose to study in that field to get that job in the first place. suppose they put a bit of thought into choosing their studies it also reflects on their personalities. How is this different than filtering a future SO by their hobbies, weight, character, taste, looks, fashion sense? enlighten me Isaiah, help me resolve my issues
My mom was a nurse until her early 20s and then never worked again except for raising 4 kids, which is a full time job itself.
What if she's a pornstar/OF girl?
I wouldn’t date her.
On a site hyper focused on career, you have issues if you filter on career?
My SO is in online marketing / e-commerce.
Before you think that means some drop shitting garbage .. no. It's actually for a recognisable brand. And she's got a masters degree in it.
Medicine (attending) is the gold standard - in a reasonable specialty
1. Stable coupon to balance out the finance call option trajectory
2. Decent hours with decent to high income (again, reasonable specialty - ofc if they're a neurosurgeon or something it's a diff story)
3. Smart / educated
Doctor (assuming it's something with chill hrs like internal medicine / dermatologist / etc) or engineer in a hot field (like data science) would be both solid. Career stress is way less if your partner is also making $200k+, while decent hours (7-9hrs daily) mean you can also spend time with her and that you can both spend time with your children (if you want them)
Would never, ever, ever want to marry someone who works more than 55hrs per week at the very max. Ideally the wife works 40-45hrs. I'd personally never want to work steady state more than 55hrs per week in my 30s and beyond either tbh. Hoping my next gig ends up being about ~50hrs weekly, maybe flexing up to 55-60hrs during earnings season only. Bang for your buck past 10hrs per day of work is minimal, gotta have gym time + wind down time + time with fam
Wife also does real estate, albeit doing market strategy & site selection for a massive company. She's a rockstar.
Edit: MS on this post is a WSO virgin counter
Wait, if I'm a virgin do I have to give MS now?
He sells women's shoes. If you're a female working for Goldman you might know who he is.
We met on an app. No not Hinge or Bumble.
You hookup with your shoe guy?
I buy my shoes online.
After dating a nurse, I would much prefer to date someone in law/finance/consulting/[insert white collar job here]. Money conversation isn't awkward and people in those careers are generally more educated and understand having "drive". Every nurse just wants to not work and be a real housewife...it's gross
My wife works in real estate, she read finance as well during her time at university.
Wife is an Anesthesiologist
Doctor (Pediatrics). IMO best work/life in medicine. She makes nice (but not crazy) $ and has a good low stress lifestyle.
The task is finding a woman that understands and practices marriage/relationship duty. I certainly cannot deal with bimbos too. They are seriously a complete waste of breath.
Personal trainer or pro athlete is hot. I like a girl that knows how to push themself.
State Department.
I've dated up and down. The most important is understanding about money together. The shoe salesman contributes a bit to the rent/maintenance that I could honestly walk away from without batting an eye. We're savers. The least we can spend and be happy is the right amount. I've got a Miata because the 2% happier a C8 Corvette would make me isn't worth the cost. That third NYC Bedroom we don't have isn't worth the extra quarter million..
You’d be way more than 2% happier to not drive a fucking Miata.
I think this “drive a shit box cause who cares” is the biggest lie we are all told. I finally upgraded to a top trim/performance vehicle and realize how much I have been missing out to save very little real dollars over a 7-10 year drive period.
Now an empty third bedroom — who cares about that.
Miatas actually don't depreciate. A 1990 was $13k new, and depending on trim and condition (and how you can document dealing with the pre-1991 SNC issue) you can still get $13k for one.
You sir appear to be in RE, and likely not in the city. Having a car, even a Geo Metro, is a luxury purchase here. I take a R68 to work not because of the Miata but because I can't afford the chopper that would be the next quicker choice.
My boss swings $50B in Assets around and doesn't even bother with a car.
Med school
My first thought is that you don't know a lot about nurses if you think they're all "low IQ".
My second thought is you better be extremely handsome, very successful, and hung like a donkey if this is your wish list. You want a smart, kind, hot woman who is successful but doesn't have a Type A personality, who understands and accepts that you'll be working long hours (I assume you are in finance) but doesn't have any urge to do the same herself.
You're looking for a unicorn. That's fine, but understand that those women are rare. Think about how many hot Christie's art auctioneers there are, and think about how many people are probably interested in dating them. What is it you're bringing to the table that any other generic finance bro isn't?
I don't know you specifically, so this isn't directed at you as much as the community, but it is always hilarious to me how many guys think that because they're in their mid-20s and on Wall Street, they are somehow at the apex of the desirability pyramid when it comes to dating, and have these absurd requirements for who they think is "appropriate" for them to date. Only 10s, but they can't be in jobs for which good looks are a prerequisite. Have to be under 25, but also have a career. Have to be smart and ambitious, but also willing to put their career aside to be a homemaker, can't be smarter than you, can't work in any of the fields that attract smart and ambitious people.
Like, bro - you're one more not very impressive fish in a really big pond. There are probably more very wealthy trust fund kids doing really interesting things with their life than there are women you're looking for, and the women you want to date are probably more interested in dating someone doing something more interesting than what you do for a living.
My wife's mid-office, a level under c-suite at a mid-sized specialty bank. It's amazing having someone who understands what you do and doesn't give you shit when you have to be at work late doing it because she has to travel and occasionally work late or have client dinners too. It's also amazing having someone who is smart and accomplished as a partner. And someone who also makes good comp. She's a small a type A, and pushes me be better and wants me to do the same for her.
Wouldn't want it any other way.
A job where my SO has low stress and little reason to complain about people at work when she’s at home. Makes for time together more relaxing and positive.
My wife is a lawyer.
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