I'm gonna share some life lessons I've learned this year and I invite you to do the same on comment section. Here goes my key takeaways.
- Take control of your interpretation of facts.
When shit hits the fan (and eventually it will happen, trust me), the biggest component of your stress is not the fact itself, but your interpretation of what happened. Try to see positive side of things. It might sound cheesy, but it's a lot better than getting into a negative loop that might lead to depression and shit like that. You've got fired? Here's the opportunity to find a better job. Your girlfriend broke up? Use it as a motivation to work on yourself. Your parents passed away? Here's an opportunity to learn the value of time.
I've been in a tough road this year and the only reason I am not in a depression right now is because I've taken control of my interpretation of facts.
- Don't manage time, manage attention.
My productivity boosted 100% when I started managing my attention. If you're like me, you probably lose a lot of time just to get focused. If I'm working on a task and I stop just to read an e-mail, it might take 5 to 10 minutes to get the fully focused on the task again.
Manage your attention. Train yourself to be focused for a longer period. Stop multitasking.
- You need mentors. Get fucking mentors.
We've all heard that Jihm Rohm quote "You're The Average of the Five People You Spend The Most Time With". I don't know if this is true, but I'm sure you're on a better pathway if you spend time with people that are in a position you would like to be in 3, 5, 10 years from now.
Find mentors. A lot successful folks are willing to help a young, motivated and dumb dude like you (and me). Now you might be asking: how the fuck do I find mentors? Well, I'll make another topic on this...
- Stop trying to be good at everything
I've been playing classical guitar for 15 years. Now I'm in a position that if I want 1% of improvement, it will take hundreds hours of practice and this is the reason I've lost my passion for music in the last 3 years.
I am a very driven men and I'm sure most of you are too. We always want to improve and we become extremely frustrated if we don't. However, at some things you gotta learn to stop wanting to get better and just enjoy the activity. I had to accept that I'll never be the musician that I would like to be, and this is fine.
We can be good at one or two things, and that's it. Set your priorities and don't tell yourself you'll reach your goals in all areas in life, because it will only make you frustrated. A good book to read about this is "The One Thing" by Gary Keller.
I think that's it. And you, what lessons you've learned this year?