Girl trouble - am I being petty?
Ok monkeys, be gentle with me.
When I was doing my masters in economics last year, I met a girl. I was instantly attracted to her, however never got a chance to ask her out. Eventually I did, and we went out a couple of times. I really liked her but I think she considered me a good friend. I got mixed messages from her. Once, she sends me text messages in the middle of the night asking me to take her to lunch tomorrow and another she doesn't reply back to me. Anyway I persisted but eventually she kinda distanced herself from the relationship after we hooked up. I had fallen for her but she wanted no part of anything. Didn't return my calls or texts, or when she did made up excuses to avoid hanging out. So I told her how I felt to kinda compensate for the what may appear to be semi regular contact. She was angry at ms for ruining our friendship even though we hooked up, which she instigated. I never saw her again for the 3 months she remained in the country (she was from Pakistan, smoking hot as well) but she called me occasionally if she needed to talk or something.
So she left and we remained in touch via Facebook. On one occasion, I made a passing joke as to how she spent time with every dude there but me. She became very offended and we stopped communication. She started it up again but didn't apologise. We started skyping, calls and texts again
Finally, I actually visited Pakistan because another friend of mine was getting married and invited me. I didn't visit her because of time constraints and she became pissed, and wouldn't talk to me, accusing me of doing it on purpose. That was 6 months ago.
I'm graduating next week (year late because graduation is always a year later here) and she's gonna be there. Would it be petty for me to hold the grudge? Or should I just let it go.
Bear in mind, she avoided me whilst hanging out with others and then accuses me of avoiding her.
Monkeys, normally I wouldn't out this stuff up here but you guys have been pretty helpful to me thus far and really need some advice. I don't wanna be a douchebag but I don't wanna be a pushover, someone who can click her fingers and I'll come running.
Apologies for the long post but thought it better to present the full story.
tl; dr / grow a pair
you're being petty. Chances are she likes you but has issues beyond male comprehension.
lets put it this way. a real man wouldnt be bothered by that. he'd get on with his life, let her get on with hers without doing any chasing and she'd come running back.
P.s.tip for future. Her way of not replying was a way of keeping your attention.
As one of the above posters said, she's got some shit going on that's beyond male comprehension. She probably doesn't even know what she wants. There really is only one tactic that has any chance of salvaging it. If you continue on your current course, you're going to be permanently "friended".
Here it is - you need to bang someone else and make sure she knows about it. Seriously. All the better if you pick said girl up at a bar in front of her, dance a bit, make out, and then take said new girl home. She needs to know she can't drag her feet, and needs to see that you'll bounce elsewhere if she keeps this shit up and she'll miss her chance. Plus there's a lot of basic female psychology you'll trigger that will make her want you after seeing you with another hot girl. Do it, don't apologize.
^^yep
She is a women if you were suppose to understand she'd tell you in black in white. In other words, just keep it moving. Lastly, yes you're being petty..holding a grudge over a girl no need no time. FBGM
God only knows whats going through her mind. I agree w/ everything the above posters have said. Just make sure, whatever you wind up doing, that you don't lose your dignity and manhood. Looking like a self-sorry, unconfident pushover won't get you anything other than pity.
Thats what I'm saying. I dont want to be considered petty, i.e. someone holding a grudge over a small matter (to some not necessarily to me) for so long (will be a year).
But also worried that if I act like I'm OK with what transpired, it makes me look like an idiot. She can do whatever and I will come back.
Duuuude, you're letting her play you. You gotta let her know that you got bigger fish to fry. I don't mean that you should completely ignore her, but make sure she understands that your time is important. Girls aren't that difficult once you understand they want your attention (initially)....eventually they want much more, sometimes more than you'd be willing to give up for them.
I say you say hi to her and make small talk, but show no aggressive emotions. Make sure you act like you got other things going on in life (hopefully you actually DO have other things going on).
Good luck, if it doesn't work out make sure you play your cards right on the next one.
Oh yea, some Paki girls are pretty hot, hotter than indian girls (unless you're dating a bollywood actress), just my opinion.
@ adiolan & op: Not to be a dick for the sake of being a dick, but with this girl, you already have 'lost your dignity & manhood' and 'looked like a self-sorry, unconfident pushover' to quote adolian.
First, you need to completely forget this broad because she is unsalvageable. Then, you need to take some time to find and read some resources that are available about game or whatever you want to call it unless you want to get played, fucked with, and just generally used by bitches for the rest of your life. Its society's fault more than yours that you're dealing with women in this conventional manner, but the earlier you improve this the better.
I dont want to salvage anything anyway. Its not like I still am in love with her. Plus, the thing with Pakistani women is that they are a tease. My friend said that they like to come abroad, have their fun and go back home and marry where their parents wish is.
I want to be friends as I want her in my life but is that unsalvageable?
wow... here's a free lesson
1) From the book of Insecuritas (9:14:1): 'Treat a girl like dirt and she'll stick to you like mud.'
When you see her, tell her that it's nice to see her, and that she shouldn't listen to "what everyone has been saying" because she doesn't look "all that bad". Then don't talk to her. She'll get pissed and her insecurities will start to eat her alive... and she'll skype you within the next week looking for some sort of validation. If she complains say "listen woman, why the fuck you trying to stress me all the time? We haven't even fucked yet and you act like we're married... you scare me"... She'll be mad and likely act all offended and hang up... just wait - patiently. It won't be more than 48 more hours till she calls TO APOLOGIZE TO YOU. At that point, suggest perhaps that she takes you out for a drink to say sorry... proceed to get smashed and then do work on that ass... she'll be begging for it, wondering if she really is looking ugly or if you still want her.
Class dismissed
Dude, we're adults, I dont think thats gonna work.
Girls and their fucking games... of course a woman would get mad at you for ignoring her after she constantly ignores you. Are all women so self entitled? I'm also sick of their games and I'm going to use them for the only use most of the crazy ones have... a cum dumpster.
Try finding a girl that doesn't play games... God speed. I think you'll have a better chance becoming partner at KKR.
Amen.
I confronted on her that fact, that she plays games. Didnt deny it...
Very simple: You say hello to her but then immediately begin talking to another girl. She will most likely get jealous and try to pry herself between you and your new interest. This is the important part, you stay on target like Jek Tono Porkins and give her nothing.
She will then be all over you.
That doesnt work. She's very stubborn. I've done it once after we hooked up. She wasnt that interested and carried on with her evening. She's a really outgoing girl and has loads of friends so if its not me, she'll hang with someone else.
Again, to make it clear, I've passed the stage of me still having feelings for her but if I ignore her, she'll think its an unrequited love thing when it so isnt.
Doesn't know what she wants / fucking games.
Completely agree.
I should mention that on one occasion I bought her a gift for her birthday but it was my birthday and she didnt get me anything. Douchey move on my part, yes but isnt that one of those things you do when you want a woman?
Anyone with any experience with Pakistani girls here?
Its the culture, I think.
She had her fun and left.
Yes, i have experience. It def. culture. parental constraints...probably arranged marriage. She might marry her brother who knows.
Dude. paki girls are like that. Esp if she is muslim. Just keep it chill and get her jealous....works a charm.
Good grief man, I couldn't even finish reading your post, let alone the comments. Honestly, just start talking to every hot chick you can and let the chips fall where they may - DO NOT let this woman waste any more of your time. Everyone's been in your situation, but if you're still there tomorrow, it's your fault.
Thanks. Its not that I still want her. I just dont want her to think that I'm a dickhead by not talking to her or approaching her.
Trust me on this, ok? :)
If you don't want to be a dickhead, then just say hi, make some small talk, and move on. It seems to be consensus that you don't need to worry about this girl, ESPECIALLY if you're not even interested in her. Just don't be a douche when you do talk to her.
From a girl's POV: 1. You are her "cry on the shoulder" guy..aka FRIEND 2. She is not interested in you, AT ALL; but...when she is lonely/or is rejected by some dude she uses you (read: treats you like dirt) to get the reassurance she needs to get on with her shit 3. She clearly likes assholes....as in when you say mean things she starts reaching out to you through calls/emails: again, seeking reassurances 4. Forget this chick; she is toxic 5. At an event act friendly but "not interested"... 6. move on..stop talking to her..for your own good! :)...
You're a sensitive boy, aren't you RatinaMaze?
If you'd had banged her harder then you wouldn't have this shit to clear up.
Move on
Except that RatInaMaze IS weak
Its not a case about being sensitive. Who isnt sensitive? The question is whether I ought to try and remain friends or just tell her to fuck off once and for all. Its pretty difficult for me to do that as I keep wandering over to her in my thoughts, and her facebook page etc.
First up, feel bad for you. Issues like are messy and anything, you do you cant win.
Figure out whether you actually still want her. As someone said, you sound like a sensitive guy. The last thing you want is to see her and all those feelings come rushing back to you. Then you're fucked, because you're inevitably gonna go running back to her, trying to impress her etc. So you say, you want to be friends, make sure that is the case then.
If you wanna be friends, all you can do is wait for her to approach. Don't approach her. Test her, does she wanna hang with you? If she waits for you, keep her waiting.
If you still want her, I say you dont go to parties at your graduation if you're gonna make a fool of yourself. The last thing you want is to lose your dignity. Fuck this chick. NOT WORTH IT. I hate women who play these bullshit games. I think there's your answer already. Women, although complex creatures, usually know what they want. If she wanted you, I dont think she would have avoided you. She wants to hang out, she would be there. Also, in terms of avoiding you, you must have fucked up somewhere along the way. Look back..
The on thing you have going for you is that she will be seeing you after a little while, so there's bound to be something there, and its up to you how you spin it.
Surprised you actually managed to score with a Pakistani girl, let alone one from Pakistan. So well done on that I guess. And I know some Pakistani girls and they are indeed hot.
Having said all that dude, get some self-esteem.Get over her. She isnt independent enought to select her life partner herself. you can call it cultural, racial or whatever difference but the reality is that there IS a huge difference.
You shouldnt reply to her overtures or whatever. she needs to figure her life herself. She led you on, filled you with hope and then bailed. Move on. Let her live her life and you live yours. Learning experience.
If there's nothing there, walk away.
No dont still want her. I think at least. You're right about seeing her and falling for her again. Might be a case to avoid her completely. Again not sensitive just hoping to not look like a petty, insecure, jackass.
I wasnt planning to, hopefully. Would you suggest just biding my time until she makes a move. But what if she doesnt?
Maybe I came on too strong, as to why she possibly avoided me. A problem was that she didnt really get my humor. Other women I have been with got my jokes and she didnt. Perhaps because she wasnt from the area and didnt understand. So when I sent her texts, I sent them in a cute silly way to get her to like me. Perhaps I fucked up there. She definitely avoided me. No one could have been that busy. Plus even if she was, you make time for people you want to hang out with right?
Yeah, hopefully. But we had some bad interaction since then. I just dont get her. What does she want from me?
Yeah she was. So nice as well. Ditzy, cute, hot body, funny, just the total package. Well, I thought she was anyway
If I dont reply, I look like a idiot. If I reply and make some anecdote and she doesnt get it, I look like an idiot. I cant win. I cant definitely say she led me on but I can read the signs. They were definitely there.
I think its just their culture. They come to different cities where no one knows them and they live a fake life. Her fake life included me.
I have self esteem, its just that I got caught up on this one girl. Havent you ever been caught up one girlo in particular?
I should also point out some other things. I have taken her off facebook numerous times, only to cave and add her again.
I think I have lost any respect she had for me and possible she may think I am weird.
What can I do to?
Female perspective out there?
Yes - she doesn't seem to be worth all your anguish.
If you want to stay friends (or make an attempt to), just have a conversation with her next time you see her. Whether she initiates it, or if you have to walk over there and make that first move. But keep at just that - friendly conversation, and don't get too invested into it or try to look for social cues ('maybe she wants to start something up again') that may not be there. Sounds like she doesn't exactly know what she wants either or doesn't know what to feel herself anyway.
As for wanting her to acknowledge she did you wrong, I don't think there's a good way of hinting that or dropping it on her without coming off like a grudge-holding villain even if you're not at fault. I say after being the bigger person in all of this, give her space and let her make the effort to come back to make amends. In the meantime, you can get out there and meet other girls less drama-prone.
Sums it up doesnt it OP?
You're a jackass for crumbling for this chick.
I dont want her anymore, I mean the way she treated me, it doesnt warrant my coming here to lay my guts out but I just cant get her out of my mind. Thoughts of her just screw with me. I have had girlfriends since, nothing serious but I know I am not in love with her anymore or want her in that manner. So why am I obsessing over her? I still feel once I get an apology for her behaviour it will end for me. Closure.
dude she is not the only smoking hot girl you know (whether pakistan or not) and she will not be the only smoking hot girl you know and fall for.
i think it totally depends on what you want out of your "friendship" or "relationship". if you want to bang bang, then just bang bang. if you want to play the mental game, dude, you're torturing yourself.
i had not the patience reading through the thread but did you try to treat her the same way she did to you? i.e. ignoring her calls/messages/voicemails without replying? if not, do that, and you will get the answer you want.
of course we all got hooked up (or fell for) with someone. More than once. you got a future and you don't want to waste too much time and energy on this type of thing.
don't sound like a pussy. perhaps that's why she has been treating you that way. sort out yourself first and when the time comes you will know what's right for you. meanwhile, enjoy it now - whether you get to bang bang or not - i'm sure a few years later when you look back you'll find yourself silly and just laugh at it. everyone has been through this.
you never know, maybe you end up marrying her or two weeks later some hotter chick shows up and she happens to like you! so just relax dude and be a man!
I got 99 problems but a bitch ain't one...dude grow a fucking pair and leave the chic alone. You've gotta frame it as HER being worth YOUR time, not the other way round. Go out and find other women and you'll be fine.
From your post, I gather she's been married to an old tribe leader since her 12th birthday. Let her go...
But before that, please post the detail of your conversations with her. :-)
you are what we call in my community an average frustrated chump. listen to CaptK's advice, it's pretty bang on. literally.
I still don't get it, what the fuck do you want from her?
You want hook up again or be friends? Get that clear and the answer will be clear.
I feel bad for you son
nobody picked up on this? i'll sb it.
She likes you but isn't quite attracted to you but, at the same time wants to know you will be there to run to if she should so decide to need you at some point in the future. Do you like being Plan B? Cut her out of your mind and be cordial when you see her but nothing else.
I guess what I want is for us to still be friends but for her to acknowledge that she fucked me around. So far she hasnt, and that bothers me. I had fallen for her but I am over that but there is still something drawing me towards her.
If I'm honest, I know that if I ignore her, she will engage me rather then the other way around. Silly probably.
From what I have said, would you seriously suggest cutting my losses and move on? If so, please hit me with some knowledge as to how to do that.
I hadnt thought about her for a long time until I recently went back on to her facebook and was reminded. Taking her off is an option but after doing it so many times, I'll soon be adding her again. I think I took her off initially because I wanted her to find out and perhaps realise she was a bitch to me and contemplate. But that failed too. I think its closure I'm after.
Dude quit being a pussy. Just move on
I want to be friends because I still have a lot in common with her, she's a nice girl for the most part (obviously not relationship material) and I dont know I guess. I think she's a good friend but just got afraid about where it was heading. She is Muslim so perhaps she felt guilty about betraying her parents or something. Its not like she slept around.
On occasions, when I consider all that, I feel it was perhaps my fault for pushing so hard.
Holy fuck bro, regardless of what anyone says in this thread, your girl is not the problem...
Meaning what? I'm the problem? I acted like a bitch?
"For every asshole on earth, there is a bitch who made him that way." Don't let this be you. Walk away.
life is a bitch, just slap it and move on. Never dwell on a single pussy!!!
painful to read, memories of a dark past ;-)
believe me, no reason to dwell over this. just act nice, happy and confident with her like you are, like nothing happened. do not cling on to her like a puppy. let her come to you if she is still interested, which she probably is not. otherwise just go on with your life. and keep the power to yourself from now on!
And yet, in something of a contradictory aside, I admire that you can feel this way about a chick. No disrespect meant to members of the female sex, but I can't imagine any babe being worth this type of emotional investment.
Where does one find this type of conniving, emotionally taxing creature? Is she dropping shits on men everywhere? Or are you the only person inciting this kind of response?
LMFAO!^^
Had this been a two line post, it would have been different, but there's no 'nice' way to put this:
What's with this "Let's be friends" bullshit? You already have friends.....right? She's not the problem, you are.
You are allowing someone to disrespect you and you owe it to yourself to find people that are on your side.
Life is hard enough without letting people bring you down....least of all the person you're dating.
Think about how this relationship is now, and then imagine how much worse it would be if you married this person and had to live with them.
You're not going to change anything or anyone, they have to do that. And it might never happen.
SoMoveOn
knowledgedarts
I think someone in a past post said "work on yourself." You're going to sit there and think all day about this? I assume you live in some major city so find someone new. If you lived in tenpeopletown, nowhere I would understand more, but you don't. Enough people have weighed in and said the same advice, now it's on you to execute. Don't skip the party, enjoy your life, but don't make the party about her. It's your graduation - live it up.
Great post, well said
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Have you not been reading? The only part I am a villain in this is that I invested myself too much for the 5 months we were together.
I see what you are saying but she was into me, she approached me. She kissed me, she initiated everything. I just want closure.
Its not about changing. Deep down, I know she knows she fucked me around and treated me badly but if she acknowledges it, its a climb down for her or something.
Clearly if you're having this much of a problem with leaving this girl you obviously haven't forgotten her and moved on now have you? It has nothing to do with the culture fyi...most modern Indians and Pakistanis do what they want, but they have some reverence toward the culture or whatever. I don't understand what the problem is, you're acting more moody than most girls to be honest lol.
If you like her, pursue her. It's really as simple as that. She might have some barrier or whatever but if you like her you'll break it. If you just wanna be friends and stay in her life, well you're already friends. You shouldn't have a problem if you don't have feelings for her anymore.
Now, if you still do have feelings and you're in denial, then I would do what people suggested already. Hit up that party, flirt with other girls, make HER want you. Girls are girls, whether white or Paki or whatever...make them chase after you and then show them how much you care.
Really? Modern indians and pakistanis? Should that be in the same sentence? Hate to stereotype but Pakistanis are consumed with their traditions and cultures. They come to a city like Melbourne and fuck around with a guy they like and then forget all about him, fuck him. Dont tell me about modern. I'm positive her family has arranged her marriage already. Very modern.
And Indians, I've seen their movies, incredibly modern. They're a bunch of morons, who think something is cool now, which hasnt been for 20 years.
I dont know where your getting your information from but I have seen them.
how can she slap?
I see what everyone is saying. But I am shocked at the level of comments simply suggesting I was at fault. Nothing could be further from the truth.
I dont want her but why she is in my head?
Hahahaha, you just went through all that and commented on it point by point? Damn dude, you got bigger problems than this women. You want an apology? BWAHAHAHA, that's fucking hilarious.
I call troll.
Haha yeah, now that I think about it - this seems pretty likely. Good going if so, lasted pretty long.
Dude. I have bigger problems. Speak for yourself, you're the one on this forum every waking hour of the day. I would suggest you look at your own problems before commenting on mine.
And no moron, I dont want an apology. I wanted closure. So fuck off. And I'm not a troll. People have better things to do then that. Unlike you. Get a life.
Yeah, so I was screwed over by some girl. Who hasnt? But I dont spend all my time on some forum commenting about peoples problems when I clearly have my own. Everyone is a big boy behind a computer.
Let me guess. You fell for her, when you were alone, idealizing her in your mind. Yet you probably text her back instantly whenever she contacts you right? Stop being so predictable and you might actually get what you want, her. then you can decide if you actually like her. agreed on dudes who are saying she needs to see you with another chick. you need to create value and unpredictability. girls like the chase as much as men. shes putting you on the back burner 'friend until i decide i cant get anything better zone' because she thinks she can. change her mind.
Thanks. But I dont see the point. Honestly, like I have reiterated I didnt want her anymore. Its plain to see what kind of girl she is. I wanted closure in the form of either some kind of apology or acknowledgement that she was wrong in how she treated me after the fact. She's free to make any decision she wanted about what man she dates, thats not the issue. I had no desire to control her like some people perceived (apologies if my posts reflected this).
I think I will move on. Some women dont deserve the time of day and she's one of them. Maybe I made a mistake or two along the way, in fact I am sure I did but that doesnt justify anything. In fact I was crazy for allowing it go on for that long.
Come graduation, I will simply walk away. No small talk, no nothing. Simply walk away.
I think you're on the right path. Just handle it correctly if she persists. Last thing you want to do is cause a scene.
Walking away is good. Persist, I'm gonna say don't break but that seems redundant with you at this stage.
No need. I am done with her. Fuck that bitch. And fuck anyone else who has screwed over any other dude here.
I suggest you blow off some steam at the gym.....getting angry at women isn't going to help things.
start reading magazines with a BALANCED view, like http://www.menshealth.com/
Look up 'Man Week' on this site. A lot of it is macho silliness, but a lot of it is also real advice.
*** DO NOT go and talk to some chick for advice on this. You need to find men to emulate and learn from. Avoid the alpha psychos, avoid the IT geeks, just start learning from grownup men how to act like a grownup man. Fake it to you make it. One day, you wake up and realize, "Wow, I'm an adult" and then........you're golden.
It's really that simple.
I want to apologise if my posts reflected some weird desire to control her or at least want her back. Neither is true.
I think its best to revert to making her the villain rather then waste any more time dreading what to do when I go to graduation.
Thanks for all the posts. Keep them coming, if you think I did something wrong or walking away is a bad idea to adopt.
My worry was if I walked away, how I was to be perceived by her, but who cares? She thinks I'm petty for holding a grudge, more power to her.
There are way too many good looking girls out there. Just move on. If she wants you, she'll come around. If not, then forget her.
Yeah, I've decided to take her off Facebook. Did that and blocked her. Perhaps too little too late. But fuck that bitch.
She can go suck a dick.
nice lol
Are you 13?
Lol, nooo. Just a tad angry. My bad.
Rat, the girl thought she wanted you to be her bf, had sex with you once, you were an absolute loser in bed, she decided never again. She still liked you as a person, just didn't want to ever fuck you again. Then you started fucking up by making awkward sexual innuendos and acting like there's something between you two. You are not in a relationship and never were. What kind of closure do you want? Do you want her to straight up tell you sorry Rat, but I scizzored with chicks more manly than you?
At this point your last resort is sending her this video, and hope she comes around:
[quote=Argonaut]Rat, the girl thought she wanted you to be her bf, had sex with you once, you were an absolute loser in bed, she decided never again. She still liked you as a person, just didn't want to ever fuck you again. Then you started fucking up by making awkward sexual innuendos and acting like there's something between you two. You are not in a relationship and never were. What kind of closure do you want? Do you want her to straight up tell you sorry Rat, but I scizzored with chicks more manly than you?
At this point your last resort is sending her this video, and hope she comes around:
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What the fuck is wrong with you? I posted here because I thought I might get some good advice (which I did) but honestly man, don't you something better to do?
Did I say we hooked up once, because I don't remember saying that. Y'know I didn't bother writing every detail of my time with her to prevent someone from not reading it and then not getting any good advice. Plus I didn't see the need to go through the entirety of our time together. And if you read the post properly, I wanted closure by her telling me either what I did wrong or admitting she was wrong. But whatever man, life is too short to dwell on this.
And dude I know you think you're incredibly funny with these videos and pictures you seem to want to introduce in every post you make, but dose of reality. You arent. So just fuck off man, If you havent anything worthwhile to say. People genuinely come to such forums for good advice on actual problems. So just grow up man.
Thanks for the monkey shit as well. It really bothered me.
get. another. girl. period. will take your mind off of her. you're just infatuated
Oh I've moved on. I was still hung up on her last week but you know that on thing that happens in any relationship that makes you realise what was I doing or why did I do this, etc?
I found mine earlier this week.
This is all pretty obvious. She part of a sleeper cell terrorist operation and is torn between here commitment to you and to her terrorist organization.
Update. It has been less then 48 hours since I removed her and already she sent me a message asking why i took her off, what she did wrong, and how she thought we were past it. Don't worry its not gonna make me go running back to her or anything, because I am sincerely done but its funny how I was hung up on her just last week and it certainly seems like she either regularly seeks out what I am upto or still harbours feelings for me. Funny how that works out.
Cut your losses and keep moving - if you end up friends, lovers, or whatever later on down the road - BONUS - if not, it's not going to stop yout from living your life.....this is what women are really looking for.
Good luck
Thanks.
No, I've seriously moved on. I just thought I'd give this ironic update to you guys as you helped me quite a bit. Most definitely have cut my losses.
UFO insider, are you seriously going to encourage a loser who first came here asking if he was PETTY, and is now reporting with glee that his supposed friend is confused as to why he deleted her for no reason? I mean seriously? how old is this kid? 12?
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Seriously, what the fuck is your problem? I wasnt reporting with glee but with irony as I was concerned that I thought too much about her and clearly she was too. You keep referring to us as friends. Dude, I think I know the difference between friends and a relationship and trust me I would not be thinking this over if we were simply friends. Wow, surely that must have been simple to comprehend.
As to your points, she knows the reason, she's not confused but trying to play for sympathy, which she often does.
I have a question, why do you keep coming back to this thread? Havent you something better to do? And I'm 23.
And seriously? You're what in your 20s too. Are you seriously gonna refer to me as a kid? No one does that anymore. Word to the wise
I think she likes playing that control thing you mentioned. As often she used to call me odd hours and we had a long conversation and a day or two later she wouldnt reply to a text. Probably seen one too may movies.
In lieu of actual paternal guidance, read all of the articles on this site. It will get you a lot more than posting relationship questions on finance blogs :)
Good luck, and BTW, just curious....do you work in finance?
This would be a more appropriate link ...
http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-signs-youre-not-an-alpha-male.html
Yeah, working at Westpac at the moment before joining Vandy for their MSF
I am gonna be honest, it makes me uncomfortable to see a man freak out like that and go on and on and on nonstop about petty bullshit
I see where you're coming from. In the end, first to admit, I let it drag on too much and I was an idiot. But look at this way, I was in love with the girl, really enjoyed spending time with her and thought it could have a future. When that door closed suddenly and without a proper reason why, I wanted to hear the answer for my sanity.
Everyone behaves differently. I'm sure 80% of WSO members would have told her to take a hike a long time ago but that doesnt mean that is indeed the right answer.
I know this is after the fact, but here is the test you should have used from the beginning:
If it was one of your guy friends that treated you like shit, would you agonize about getting them to apologize to the extent that you did in this thread? Probably not, right? You were blinded by the box, that's all. But now you know better.
I think some Borat is appropriate here:
No, I probably wouldnt but wouldnt you agonize over a hot chick. Yeah, I have no qualms admitting it. I wanted her longer then the time we spent together and it was evident she felt the same way. But somewhere along the way something happened because she acted like she didnt know me. Simply wanted to know what I did wrong and if I didnt do anything, why she was acting like a bitch.
But now? Its not worth the trouble. A little late in the day but the sun is still out.
Another message. Apologetic in tone but not outright saying it.
Dude. Nobody gives a shit. This is not twitter or your personal Facebook. You are a very successful troll, don't add insult to injury with your status updates
Dude. Not a troll. I gathered no one might wanna hear but I only mentioned it as a finality sort of thing.
Argonaut, seeing as you're probably waiting for another post from me to masturbate over, here you go.
Fucking douchebag.
How'd you like to suck my dick? No homo
You both confused and got me confused too! Is it on-off relation? Friendship? affair? If it is friendship, go and talk to her everytime u see her...thats what friends do, always.
just forget about her for ever and move on with your life. this on again and off again theory never really works well!
Interesting that I posted the same question on an actual relationship forum and I got 3 times as many comments on this then there.
Just to be clear, nothing wrong with being a homo.
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Argonaut and Rat's vendetta makes for amusing and weird reading..
Rise above all such non sense. A simple greeting would not hurt you. But otherwise, its advisable that you quit thinking much about her and find another girl for yourself.. :)
OP:
I wish I had some shit to throw at you. Not this WSO play-shit, I mean like real, stinking shit, at your face.
Shut the fuck up. I hate these macho wannabe guys who act like they have never been in a situation. Granted I let it go a bit too far but cut the crap. 2/3's of the guys out there would do the same/or at least pursued.
Look, hiding behind a computer doesnt make you tough or a hotshot or whatever.
I was man enough to admit what happened so cut me some slack.
I hate nutless pussies whining on WSO about how little game they have and seeking anonymous shoulders to cry on. It tells me that for all the time you AREN'T spending with women, you don't even have male friends to bitch to. This retarded love-advice bullshit posting is 1000x worse than the college freshman postings about how to get into GS TMT. At least that shit is finance related. This is you airing out the dirty laundry of your pathetic, sexless life.
Gonna throw a few more electronic f-bombs at me tough guy?
Save your energy for your date with your right hand, Romeo.
would you like a gold star with that cut slack? I mean it was probably the only manly thing you did in your entire life, and I would assume not because you are a man, but because you didn't realize it was such a girly little temper tantrum :) So you def deserve some positive reinforcement
Sorry if i'm repeating what anyone else said but she clearly doesn't respect you. Girls love attention and you seem to have been her safety when she wasn't getting as much from anyone else. As per the friendship, it's definitely salvageable but do you really want to be friends with someone like this? 9 times out of 10, the feelings will surface as soon as you get close again.
if you have any intention of ever trying a relationship then i think you should give it more time and space. Be "cordial"-- don't straight up ignore her because that's more immature than anything but don't give her more attention than you'd give anyone else
See this is what my point was. I didnt want to completely ignore her but I wanted her to know she was a bitch. But apparently there's not good way to do it. I still think about her occasionally but not in a romantic sense anymore.
I took her off Facebook but now I think its kinda petty. I might add her again.
Looks like your exit ops are slim pickings. try networking your way into a boutique (think busted girls with nice bodies, mildly overweight, or Moelis)
Thanks for linking me to this from your new forum post so I can take a shit on you.
Love, Me
Brooklyn bridge. Use it.
End thread.
Why is this thread still active?
Lol @ ivotefortheguy
I vote for ivoteforthatguy for the WSO's Little Whiny B*tch Regulator.
Double post.
Sorry I forgot Argonaut, I have my graduation next week. I will let you know how I get on. Just for you I'll come back.
I just forwarded this thread to the girl you're seeing bro. Sorry but it had to be done.
Just saw this and thought of this thread. (Sorry dunno how to embed videos on WSO)
Argonaut, I had my graduation last night.
It was a good night. We hooked up. She in fact, got even hotter over the course of the year.
I was gonna ignore her for the night as I had planned but this hit up some weird desire in her and she was eye fucking me the whole night before she made her way over. I was polite to begin with before she got all heavy and we started dancing. One thing led to another. It was stupid as I've been seeing this other girl for about a month now and I do quite like her.
CAN WE PLEASE LOCK THIS THREAD.
TROLL TRYING TOO HARD TO KEEP IT GOING.
Shut up dude. Not a troll..
Just informing Argonaut about what happened.
You are not giving enough detail. Was she shaved? Were you? Condoms or bareback? Where did you end up doing it? What was the depth of penetration, strokes per minute, how long did you last, how many times?
Also the last time you wrote this post, your graduation was pretty uneventful. You jumped into some parallel reality?
Jesus I regret ever posting in this fucking thread because it keeps showing up now with new posts when you girls start bickering again. Holy shit just end it, it's the fucking internet - who cares.
^^^Quite a bit actually
also:
To all those who think I am a troll..I'm not. I was an idiot who fell in love but now I saw the error of my ways. How many people can say that the girl who you fell for, didnt want you then but now all you had to do was turn up somewhere and she was all over you?
^^^^^
Not likely.
Dude, girls play those fucking games all the time... you treat them like their pussy drips gold and they want nothing to do with you, you treat them like shit and they're all up on your dick. Yet they whine cause "chivalry is dead."
nah bitches, you killed it
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