IDK how to date with this job...
I don't have the time, plain and simple. Dating apps take effort and energy, and I'm not out at bars or parties enough on weekends to make personal moves. Anyone else feel this way? If so, how are you dealing with it?
"I don't want to do any of the things people typically do to meet people. Why is dating so hard?"
If you’re a guy, my recommendation is you date a guy who’s also in finance. Much easier than swiping right on art girls on Hinge in Bushwick who don’t even know what MOIC is.
Balancing dating with the demands of an IB job is a challenge many face, but there are strategies to make it work. Based on the most helpful WSO content, here are some actionable tips:
Maximize Your Free Time: Even with a packed schedule, you can carve out small windows for socializing. A quick coffee date, lunch, or even a short walk can be enough to connect with someone. As one user pointed out, "You can't grab a coffee for 20 minutes? Can't go out for lunch or dinner for an hour or so? Never? Well then you don't deserve to be dating."
Leverage Serendipity: Increase your chances of meeting people by spending your limited free time in places where you're likely to encounter potential matches. Think gyms, yoga classes, volunteer events, or even hipster wine bars. These environments are more conducive to organic connections than late-night bars.
Use Dating Apps Strategically: While dating apps can feel like a drain, they’re a practical tool for busy professionals. Focus on apps like Hinge or Bumble, which tend to attract people looking for meaningful connections. Avoid apps like Tinder if you're seeking something serious, as one WSO user noted, "If she’s on Tinder, she’s a whore." (A bit harsh, but the sentiment reflects the app's reputation for casual encounters.)
Develop Yourself: If you feel like you’re not interesting outside of work, take steps to change that. Explore hobbies, read books, or engage in activities that excite you. This not only makes you more appealing but also gives you something to talk about beyond your job.
Prioritize Fitness and Confidence: Hitting the gym and maintaining a healthy lifestyle can boost your confidence and energy levels, making it easier to put yourself out there. As one user shared, "Being in better shape will boost confidence. It’s a snowball effect."
Plan Ahead: If your schedule is unpredictable, try to plan dates or social outings during quieter periods. Communicate your availability clearly to potential matches to manage expectations.
Ultimately, the key is to be intentional with your time and efforts. Even in a demanding career, small, consistent actions can lead to meaningful connections.
Sources: How do you manage dating / meeting women in IB?, Please help! - burnt out and depressed despite having my dream job and not sure how to fix it, Selfish Ask for Help in Situation, IB + Long Distance Relationship, I'm lonely
"That's what the money's for."
What do you think there are so many balding, ponchy guys in finance on their second or third wives? (who totally don't hate them)
You can always try dating men instead!
do it at work
If you think dating apps require effort or energy maybe you're just a bit of a loser and aren't ready to date anyone? Seriously how hard is it to swipe on a phone and text lol
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