Married men who have experienced and extensive period of “dead bedroom” what led to this?
I’m not married and have no plans for it just yet but this has always perplexed me. I have asked women as well but I think it would be interesting to hear perspectives on each side.
Maybe it's dudes that don't plan on getting married, but then they do, and eventually the simpism catches up and jhonny stops working
Please god don't let this happen to me.
My thought process is that people in long-term relationships/marriages tend to give up. Everyone gets in the perfect shape to be attractive, we get haircuts for attractiveness, work on our careers for attractiveness etc.
However, when we achieve the goal of attracting a woman we just tend to give up and give in the worst side of ourselves, you're not constantly trying to better yourself you become fat, you become entirely different to what your woman married.
If you kept working on yourself, kept being career-focused, important, and in good shape, your woman would adore and respect you thus, she would still want to sleep with you.
There's also the thing that a lot of people aren't hitting it right and need to get better at sex
Sorry, but wrong.
Want to know why women are always smiling on their wedding day? They know they never need to give another BJ.
How do you make a woman hate sex? Feed her wedding cake.
After marriage and especially after kids, women just stop craving it.
I believe Shaq got divorced in part because he wanted/expected it 4x a week and she’d allow 1x a week.
Two very high drive females I know has this happen to them. Something changes and they just don’t care for the climax like men do.
But, getting fat and being a slob certainly will escalate this slide. But being in shape and alpha won’t 100% prevent it.
Are you worried that something like that might happen to you or do you expect it to happen?
What I said applies to both genders but since I'm a man I wrote it from our POV
I should've mentioned that picking the right woman who will also not give up is just as important
I actually can't imagine. My gf and I are together for two years now and are basically banging around the clock - and that's when we're lazy. Idk, maybe it happens during or after pregnancy or anything, but when you fit together emotionally and sexually, you should want to have sex together, no? Besides, we're all high test here, no? Little bit of kink and diversity in the bedroom to freshen up the evening never hurt nobody.
I think after marriage, your sex life will mostly decline after a while. It has happened to so many people I know that I’m genuinely worried for me.
Idk, imo it's a two-party issue. Woman thinks man is aggressive and high-test and so on, so she fucks him, and they get together. After marriage, a lot of men "self-domesticate", i.e. go to work, pay the bills, come home and fall asleep, while the wife is nagging them on. And his "own space" is some gay "man cave" where he can watch sportsball and drink high phytoestrogen beers. No wonder his woman is turned off - it's not manly to live like this. So the man gotta do that shit himself - eat meat, eggs, milk, become high-test again. It works even when you're in Finance, depends only on what you're eating. And they he gotta come home, slap wifey on her thick ass and take her over the kitchen counter. It's possible, it's imperative, and it's awesome - but most of all, it's the man's responsibility.
If it can happen to Elon Musk, it can happen to anyone.
Idk this shit freaks me out. I've never been married, but most of the married guys I've ever spoken to tell me things change.
It's like she marries the horse on the top, and then turns him into the horse on the bottom. After he's the horse on the bottom, she becomes repulsed by him. I think Patrick is right, and men stop being themselves. It's like death by a thousand cuts. Once you start making her the center of your world and your every decision revolves around "happy wife, happy life" it's a wrap.
This is one of my biggest fears.
Fuck man this is scary, I sure don't wanna be a workhorse with a sexless marriage. Someone pls tell me how we can avoid this as a whole
Men marry hoping the woman never changes. Women marry hoping to change the man.
This happens because zero dread game.
Dont get fat. Don’t get broke.
Not only that but you can get sick of your wife because they let themselves go. A friend of mine has been complaining about it. His wife doesn't take care of herself anymore and gets offended whenever he mentions it. She tells him that she doesn't have the energy.
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