My girlfriend constantly wants sex.
We are both college students, I'm 21, this is my second serious relationship. She is only 19.. She has been in 2 relationships before me, but they were all short and not serious. I am her first serious one. If it was up to her, we'd have sex two and three times a day. I just don't have desire for it. She constantly offers to give me bjs which is awesome but I want to spend the time with her, but I want to do normal things, not have sex all day long.
So long story short, I’m looking for some advice here... should even bring it up at this point or give it a bit more time? If I decide to approach it, how? I certainly wouldn’t want her to think I think there’s something wrong with her or that I don’t enjoy intimacy with her...
She is beautiful and amazing in bed, but I feel I can’t meet her sexual needs. She’s been masturbating more and more but I’m busy, and having sex once every 2 or so days is never enough for her. Help?
Not sure if you are a guy or girl, also, are you into girls?
I’m a guy and I’m straight. I love her very much but she only wants to have sex. She doesn’t let me take her out. She only wants sex and it becomes tiring at some point
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You’re a pussy.
Please tell me this won't start another wave of hornyposting like we saw last year
Paging the expert - Pizz
You can start by DMing me her contact info so I can help her out with her "problem".
Just break it off. Honestly, if your libido is this low at 21, this is not going to work out. (We are all different, and have different sex drives). I'm mid-30s, and I wish this was still the case where i could get bj's every day(or whatever).
Youth is wasted on the young.
Does she get off when you guys are intimate?
Yes she does.
U can give me her number
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Bro just run that ass to the ground. Its simple, she's horny, you're girl is choosing sex over romance and dates. Don't fall for her just get the nut and don't invest to much into her now. Let her chase you for the sausage.
there´s 2 issues here - time management and libido
time management - if you're a college student and not a D1 athlete in one of the big sports, you have no excuse for not having the time to bang 3x a day, that's 1 hr tops altogether unless she only wants marathon sessions in which case I'd just figure out ways to get her off quicker
libido - you say you don't have the desire to do it 2-3x a day if this is because you can't get it up, then look at things to help that, I'm no expert there. if it's because you just don't want to, figure out why. is it because it's repetitive? is it because her libido is up during a time of day when yours isn't? is it because the positions for her don't feel great for you? does she moan like she's doing a druid seance? does she squirt like old faithful and you're running out of sheets every 48 hours?
also, if you want to hang out with her, plan something to do with her and if you can work it in before/after, great, but that way you both get what you want. if you don't have time for that right now, I'd question how you manage your time. do an audit of every 15 minutes of your day, I can guaran-damn-tee there's wasted time in there.
Quoted and bolded for emphasis. Bro, get yourself some Blue Chew if you're having trouble being ready at all hours of the day and get to it. You will look back on this moment in your life with regret if you do not fully commit to trying to fix this problem. You're only in your early 20s once.
Can confirm, was a D1 athlete(swimming), had a steady girlfriend for 1-2 years, there IS time for hanky panky 2x a day. And also to cheat on your GF with other girls.(Which I feel terrible for, now and then. She was wife material) But hormones.
Usually how it works in scenarios like this. The only ex I had with higher libido than me was a psycho with daddy issues so not really her fault, but yeah she was down for anything..
Crazy stories ?
weird flex, but okay
i wish people would stop trolling. it's immature. some people put effort into providing good advice, at least respect it
Name is a bit misleading. This is a fire…drill…of sorts
I hope one day to have a "problem" like this lmaoo
My observation is libido for women declines with age.
There was a time when my gf’s libido was higher than mine on a constant. I’ve even totaled my car after having sex from being too exhausted (long story of turning 21, a week in Vegas, LSATs, but the sex finished me off) and falling asleep at the wheel on my way home - during college. My dad would buy me Costco 42 pack boxes of condoms with his membership. He did not want me to have Jr.
Do you see her everyday? If only a few days a week, then 2x a day is understandable. 3x would be quite tiring (nap inducing), but understandable if you only see each other seldom.
Nympho tendencies does not necessarily translate to crazy personality. I have not observed a correlation.
Feel lucky that you have a repeat customer and not an “one time use” instrument. I was monogamous like you.
College was an awesome time. I can assure you that you will look back when you are 40 (with wife, kids, work) and you will not complain that you had too much sex when you were younger. In fact, you would be proud.
The one regret is when I did have the opportunity to shack up with a fling and that I did not have my own place (I was living at home) prevented me from doing it. But I worked and was careful with spending my money, but in retrospect future me would have approved renting a hotel or something. What I’m trying to say is you only see your world in your 20 year old eyes (and wallet) but think about what your 40 year old self would think.
Enjoy being young.
There’s a guy at work that I regularly see at the gym after work. We acknowledge each other at work if we see each other in the hallways or elevator. At the gym, we talk for a few moments whenever we bump into each other. The conversation is always polite and respectful. He’s good friends with the MD.
A few weekends ago, I was at a bachelor party. One of the stops was at a gay bar for a drink. My coworker was at the bar wearing extremely tight black leather pants. I was surprised to see him because I didn’t think he was gay. He seemed quite embarrassed when he saw me there (I was with 15 other guys) and rudely asked me what I was doing at the bar. I replied that this was one among many stops of the bachelor party. He then quickly ran off to his table without saying bye. He was sitting alone with another guy (not sure if the other guy was a boyfriend, a male mistress or simply a friend).
The waitress then brought us to a table next to the coworker. The group I was with was very loud and we were tanked by that time of the night. They might have yelled out a few anti gay rants and ethnic slurs. I only knew half the people at the party and didn’t know these guys. I’m not sure if the coworker heard those comments because he left before we finished our drink.
The last 2 weeks at work have been awkward. First, I don’t see him at the gym anymore. Odd, considering he’s a fitness freak. Second, he intentionally took another elevator the other day (he thought I didn’t see because there were a few people waiting for the elevator but from the corner of my eye I noticed). Last, although he works in another department, he always hands me in person a report every month. For the first time in his year and a half working with us, he sent me the report via PDF.
The longer this drags out, the more awkward this will get. Should I just call him up and talk things over by reassuring him I won’t tell anyone where I saw him? Or is this none of my business and if he wants to ignore me I should careless? If he wasn’t close to the vice president I wouldn’t care, but that’s something that can hurt me for future promotions.
Yeah but... what does this have to do with my situation ?
Oh my bad. I thought we were talking about things that NEVER HAPPENED!
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