workplace bullying /intimidation
Tell me your experiences of workplace bullying and/ or intimidation. And how you dealt with it. Anything you would change in hindsight and what action are you most satisfied you did.
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Men after hours would objectify the women in the office particularly the female bankers. They would talk about who is hot and not. I said we should stop and they listened.
Now, we only talk about their attractiveness when they are not there but in a kind way that is complimentary not objectionary to them.
Usually, the female bankers who were the hottest had the most male bankers asking them out or doing stupid things with them when drunk...
You speak like an alien living in a human body, trying to pass as human and speak as a human speaks.
"we talked about boning Stacy behind her back... in a loving way"
LOL
Is this supposed to be funny? Because you sound like a fucking retard
what happened to don't shit where you eat
Yeah, that's why the females never went out with them....
I ALWAYS poop where I eat. Because my dung is a good fertilizer for the chickens.
When a group of 30+ singles under 30 work together 60++ hours a week, there is going to be shenanigans. It's not a monastery. The pre-frontal lobe (decision-making region) is not fully developed until age 25. It's just a big temptation, regardless of trying to "be smart about things." What starts as a casual get together between pals after work...
Men during working hours used to shouting prices (making market) of new female interns on the trading desks. Since the youngsters doesn't know what these prices means they get away with it.
As a grad trader at many client meetings there were a lot of travelling hands syndromes from senior PMs esp RMs. This has stopped to a certain extend as I have got more senior but I sometimes look at the girls across the table covering me, I feel bad as they are essentially like an escort being pimped out by their senipr sales MD.
Whoa, really? I have so never been #METOO'd That is crazy stuff. I think the trading floor is much more brutal. I did get invited to some dinners for clients I wasn't involved on, you know, kinda to "decorate", but that didn't bother me. I was always treated extremely well.
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Thanks for the heads up man. I gave MS on this the other day but totally forgot to put on my cape so to speak.
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We have a guy who thinks he could tell everyone what to do. People just ignore him.
No, I'm saying it's important to call people out. This is what this thread is all about. There was a guy previously at my firm who was getting sensitized by the fact that we were talking about how much banking sucks that we want to kill ourselves. He said that suicide is a real thing and we shouldn't be saying this stuff...everyone listened to him and peace was restored. I did the same thing and everyone listened. We live in a peaceful society (don't mind the current protests). Call our what is wrong and be the greater man.
You live in a peaceful society, because you belong to a privileged class and never had to deal any day in your life with conflict. For 99% of the people out there, outside of the world of high finance, life is a struggle. Some recognize it, some prefer to consume video-games, porn and sugar in order to forget it.
and then everyone clapped
I'm telling you I just led them down the right path. I am their peer and we can all learn from our peers...
We should ignore you as well, scallywag.
Don't get bullied!! Any of you!!!
Say stuff back, don't let anybody make fun of u
I'll never tell, and they never found the body.
As far as I am concerned, I have never been bullied in my life. workplace or personal life. At 6.2" with a decent build, nobody will tread on me.
Same here at 6ft4 - I apparently sometimes scare people :)
A little surprised you haven't been emotionally bullied at all from wht you claim. Those words hurt more than anything physical. No senior has ever told you that you are sucking in this realm of your life and you need to do better. ever broken up with some one? I refuse to believe you have no problems in your ilfe
Guys are you measuring from the top or from the balls? This is either a little insecure or very gay BTW. I'm not going to judge you, especially given that it's Pride month, but pornhub may be a better place for this discussion.
A little suprised you haven't been emotionally bullied either. Those words hurt more than anything physical. No senior has ever told you that you are sucking in this realm of your life and you need to do better. ever broken up with some one? I refuse to believe you have no problems in your ilfe
I honestly don't have any problems in my life. Never married. Plenty going on in my dating life. Nobody in my family ever died. No financial problems.
Have bosses been unfair to me? Of course! But I have very thick skin and I don't care about other people that much. I just act like I care. It is a job, not my life. Even when a girl left me, I was sad for a few days, but I never truly loved another human being before so that feeling goes away within a week or so.
The trick to my happiness is not to care about other people, I only care about my own goals. Don't let others get to you. Tall strong men really can be intimidating, until this day nobody picked a fight with me.
I'm six feet and two inches, and those are two separate measurements
6 feet and 2 inches.
Those are probably two separate measurements you piece of shit retard lmfao
Photo, please. We wish to objectify you
I'm with her on this hahhh
I only bully my stomach by stuffing myself with that tasty cafeteria food and the free snacks. I would stand up against bullies, but I fear my knees would give out if I did.
Scott Tenorman tried to bully Cartman. Let's see how that worked out for him?
My first month at my job. we were at training. everyone left and I stayed to finish the assignment it was me and another girl(we are both first years) and two guys from San Fransisco office who have started before us. one guys goes about how hot one girl is. the other one say you should fuck her but the first guy says unfortunately his gf is in town. I couldn’t even look at them and I thank God there went to San Fransisco. one of those same guys had to work with me on a project with other people. whenever I would say anything he would totally ignore it, pretend he didn’t hear me until another guy repeated to him and he discussed MY pov with him not me. I tell him something is wrong he goes to another male colleague and completely ignores me.
Sounds like something that happened in my training class last summer
are we maybe in the same bank? I don't want to know haa
I might not have been the bully, but I may have bullied back.
Right after college I worked for a Big 4 accounting firm in WM, but they made us all contractors, denying us the same benefits as official employees, and were swapping out staffing agencies every three years to make it legal. When they swapped (I literally was fired on Friday, hired on Monday and kept my cube) The new staffing agency wanted to cover their rears and gave us a "workplace violence training" shortly into our employment. It was drivel that makes anti money laundering trainings seem exciting.
An hour an a half in, after going over the corporate negatives of workplace violence, the potential disciplinary actions, and examples, they came to the piece d'risistance: "Committing suicide in the workplace is an act of workplace violence." I couldn't help myself anymore at this stupid insipid training, and raised my hand and asked: "What sort of disciplinary actions can an employee expect if they commit suicide in the workplace?"
My coworkers chuckled, the instructors were visibly annoyed, but knew that they had lost the room, and I knew I had won, although it still took me a while to network my way out of there.
"Dude, if you commit suicide in the office, you're totally fired. And don't bother asking for a reference."
Used to have a terrible alcoholic son of a bitch for a superior who fucked me out of a better bonus after making up a rumor that I was a drug addict.
Every problem in this world has at least one solution.
I know when people treat me poorly, it is purely a reflection of how they feel about themselves. Respond accordingly.
If they are condescending, it is an advertisement for "I'm insecure! I need to lower someone else to heal my wounds!" Laugh and smile at them - if they cannot lower you, they have no power.
When other women are nasty (rare in professional, but has happened), I know they're threatened and jealous. Full stop stonewall, ignore, project utter confidence (which is what bothered them in the first place, so they'll get more of that)
Abusive = plain ol' sick, have been abused themselves, FEAR. No time to be their psychologist and figure out the genesis of their pathology. Just get the eff away from them. If you have to quit, switch departments, get off their team, whatever. You are not anyone's punching bag, you were not hired to tolerate any abuse, and they will hold you back anyhow. I have quit jobs where I felt mistreated, and often in retrospect realize just how bad it was. So glad I left, zero regrets.
Remember this clearly - healthy, happy, functional people do not bully and harass people as adults in professional settings! It is evidence of their own pathology, not you.
Hit the gym, get huge. Nobody will fuck with you when they see you deleting steaks and protein shakes bigger than them.
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