I should have been a marketing girly (a rant)
A rant and advice appreciated:
Guys I literally did IB for two years for what for literally what. Now I’m an associate in PE and I hate it. The actual work is interesting and the lifestyle IS better but it’s so much more stressful than IB for me.
I just feel like I was NOT built for this. I AM the marketing girl the finance guys are dating. I don’t know why I thought I was a finance girl like why was I trying to be cool I literally post on TikTok and and don’t care if a company has a 60% margin profile and no customer concentration. I DONT CARE. I care about vitamin c serums and Pilates and if kale is bad for you or if it’s the best thing in the world.
so. My question is. What do I do. Do I pivot to corporate strategy after finishing my two years? Would that even be doable or would I even like it? Is it a culture problem since the work is interesting to me? Would a family office have a better WLB?
Unironically go to H/S there is a huge premium on MRS degrees who have 2+2 you can date some Elliot guy and go fuck off to non profit / marketing
zero judgment if I was a hot bitch I’d never do this bullshit job
this resonates
You fell into the trap where the mainstream media told you that you didn’t want to be that girl you just described. No, what you wanted to do was be just as good as any guy who worked like a slave and busted his ass. The funny thing is you are working with the top 3% of men, some men work twice as hard for half the pay.
I don’t want this to seem like I’m coming at you, I don’t want it to seem like I know saying women are worth less or no capable. What I am saying is they got you, you fell for it. Now the way I see it is you got two options assuming your mid 20s because luckily for you, you realized this. You can either double down on doing the things that they told you that you wanted or you can do the things you described. Your not going to be a tik tok personality or maybe you will. The point is not that tho. The point is start looking for something away from NY or Chi. Start looking for a job that truly makes you happy, I know you are confused what that means but you also described what you want to do. Get a job that allows you to do those things on the side. You don’t need to make millions or even hundreds of thousands to be successful. Half of these dudes will grow up to hate who they have become and sadly that is a trajectory men take. Do what makes you happy, if it doesn’t then do what allows you to do those things. I can give you a hint: it’s not PE and it’s not IB. I say this from the 18 floor of a building I hate walking into everyday. God bless you
Dude anytime there's "woman" in the title you're all over it.
Honestly, I will pay out of pocket to get you laid..
You mean the top 2 trending topics rn? Weird lmao. Don’t worry I’m not 18 anymore I have grown past just getting laid. I hope one day you grow up too!0
The “pay out of pocket” comment has me 💀💀💀. More than it rightfully should but I’m dying over here.
So Venmo him for an escort and be done with
lmao wtf give her a break
I literally am giving her a break. It’s not her fault that media and programs try to manipulate women. That’s the point I am making. My point was to try and take back whatever she can and do what SHE wants to do.
This is for the girls only:
GIRLBOSS STAND UP!!!
If you actually hates finance, I wouldn’t be writing this, but as another PE girlie who’s also living in the trenches…
You can do it. You’re strong, you’re a bad fucking bitch and yes pilates is awesome but pilates is a sidequest. You can do it all, you can be hot, successful, slay and literally anything else you put your mind to
Is the job stressful or are you just harder on yourself than a man would be? If you like the work, the hours are fine, and I bet you’re GOOD at the work, where does the stress come from? Probably some bullshit that you can handle or fix at another comparable job.
And maybe another roll is a good fit (corporate, family office, investor relations, etc.). Maybe business school makes sense. Or a new fund. But you absolutely are cut out for this if it’s what you want. And whereas making career decisions after finding a partner makes sense, DO NOT throw away an incredible career for a man you haven’t met yet. For every marketing girlie who finds a great finance man, there’s more who are really struggling whether it’s with money, independence, partners etc.
Remember, MOM I AM A RICH MAN <3
Also dm me happy to chat specifics, but wanted to give you the pep talk regardless because I have had all these thoughts before too and this industry is tough on women
Women actually aren't really cut out for a field as cutthroat and sharp-elbowed where even the top 1% of men (Andover/Exeter/Eton -> WHYP -> CVP/PJT/Allen/Dyal/M Klein -> APO/BX/KKR -> Tiger Global/Coatue/Maverick/Viking) struggle and get burnt out in. It's absolutely ridiculous to think that you people can keep up with, much much less be remotely competitive with the Wharton 4.0 lax bro who is literally destined for finance.
Go into something like IR or sales
I’m going to assume this is satire, but if it isn’t, dude you seriously need to do some internal work on how you view women. Saying women aren’t capable of competing with men in elite finance roles is ridiculous. There is no biological reason for this to be the case (outside of taking a lot of time off for having children). Men are not intellectually superior to women. There may be social/cultural reasons why it’s more difficult for a woman to compete in these roles, but that doesn’t have to do with her innate ability. You sound like an incel
Why would there be a correlation between smartness and resistance to burnout?
every time i see this dude comment i am elated because i just know he’s gonna say some dumb shit that pisses everyone off
you are probably not really cut out for the sharp elbowed board rooms too. go work on your monitor tan.
Sup ;)
If your goal was to pick her up, Principal in Private Credit probably wasn't the best play to get her wet
Blud said 'Sup ;)' 💀
Yeah this is… not really helpful. She’s looking for specific advice regarding a potential career transition, not in need of a pro-women rah-rah pep talk. Also, telling OP she “can do it all” if she’s truly burnt out is horrible advice.
Some people truly are not built for the stress of certain jobs, and that has nothing to do with being male or female. It seems like OP may have come to this realization, though only she knows. I’ve had to make major changes because I couldn’t handle a certain level of stress. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. Trying to make this all about gender is reductive and most likely untrue.
Boils my blood when morons who have never served talking about being in the trenches when they're sitting on a cushy chair at a desk wearing stylish attire and manicured nails.
You wouldn't last an hour in the trenches.
Should probably take an English lesson or two then. It's a common term.
I really hope when your MD asks you to boil the ocean, you're not booking flights to the coast.
men are literally dying on this job. every time there is a death from overwork it's a man. while OP just wants to be able to post more on tiktok and do more pilates. who's hard on themselves here?
You need to listen to your gut instinct first and foremost and it seems clear the OP's gut is telling her to bail
I love it. lmao
There was another thread about a girl saying that she had a kid with a douche and because of finance she is kickimg ass
This comment is basically saying the same but now it gets controversial hahah
Do IR
Felt this
There’s something really sexy about a powerful corporate female though. If you just want an easy life that’s fine then
Also SUP. Sliding in….
Height? Weight? Eye color? Annual total comp?
5'8 blonde, blue eyes, 600K cash min
6'1.5, 185 lbs, brown eyes, broad-shouldered, and a devilish smile 😊 $110k total comp but I have a trust fund
Goddamn, RIP your inbox. Am I the only one who thinks she should screenshot and post the most entertaining ones?
Troll?
Switch to IR. Way better money than traditional corporate marketing and better lifestyle.
I just interviewed for IR at a big fund (AKKR/TPG/Vista) and felt so out of place. It seemed like the perfect role for me if I was more social and a was born a girl. Try it out.
Did you get the role from a HH?
I did but randomly on LinkedIn.
Lots of girls like you in equity / credit sales at BBs. Pay is decent and hours are more sustainable than IB / PE
Rough situation to be in. While not female, I do know what it’s like to not enjoy your work. You need to actively work towards a change that makes you happy. I’m sure you feel a lot of pressure to perform or do this/that, but you need to focus on yourself. Good luck
I don't think it's good to work in a field you aren't passionate about. You spent 8 - 15 hours a day working and it's too much of your life to accept being miserable.
Maybe find an easy job you can work ~4 - 6 hours at then explore other things at the same time until you find something you love.
Good news is anyone in PE has a big brain and can probably do w/e they want reasonably well. Just a matter of throwing a few darts.
do you really think most people in IB and PE are passionate about the work and not doing it for the money?
If this isn't a troll post, here's what I have to say.
Most men cannot handle this work. Most women cannot handle this work. It's nothing to do with your gender.
Everyone hates the transition from banking to PE. The increase in stress and responsibility. I know it sucks, it really does. But if you like the work, and the lifestyle, and you think you're good at it, I'd suggest you try to stick it through. For better or for worse, as a woman, you will be at the top of the pile when it comes to vp promote, principal promote. You have a path to financial freedom straight ahead of you. There are multiple times in my career when I felt like I was burnt out, and to be honest much of the stress just keeps increasing, moving up the ladder doesn't fix your life, but at this stage I am very appreciative of my career and this industry.
Remember, almost half of modern marriages end in divorce. Many result in the man lording finances over the woman, who generally earns less than him. Do you really want to put your life and financial freedom in the hands of another person?
well, you don't have to work in IB/PE to achieve financial freedom. marketing salary can be enough. at the end of the day it depends on your spending.
You sure it isn't more of an Analyst to Associate type of thing? I personally found it massively refreshing to work from the buy-side, granted I exited IB as an Associate. Shit definitely got real as an IB Associate leading the juniors on a deal team, because you have so much work to oversee, but things got marginally better on the buy-side from there.
As always, everyone's mileage varies and I'm at a large-cap credit shop, not an LBO house.
Just follow your gut and pursue what you are passionate about. Life’s all about taking risks & when you’re an old fart looking back at your life you will realize you would have been happier following the things that bring you true joy regardless of the amount of money you can make in this game
Would love to be friends and speak abt the latest in cosmetics though, take care of urself
IR or Single Family Office with a male principal who is 40-70yo.
weirdly specific but ok
Move along, grandpa.
I would consider going into consumer consulting – you will be able to work with a lot of companies in spaces that you're interested in (e.g. beauty, food, wellness, etc.) and it's substantially less stressful. Also, IR would probably be a good fit as well.
Go to IR. Allows you to make a decent living with a 20% discount in pay but with 70% less of the stress.
You can still make ends meet with a solid cushion. You can salvage your health and not waste your 20s on this job. You can build relationships with friends and family much better. You can still grow.
MM HF business development - get paid extremely well when senior, super easy job
What the role your mentioned is about?
Following, and coming from a woman here. the whole modern campaign of trying to convince women that “men and women are equal” and “women can do anything” is so stupid. In fact, no, women cannot do everything, women are not equal with men, and such a high stress high demand job like PE is one of them. I am so recruiting for IR at the end of my banking analyst program
Harrison Butker just read this thread and told me to give everyone a +SB
This was me (well, partially, I'm not into pilates) - burning out in a PE job and asking myself why the hell I bought into the "work hard now and in a few years, everything will be SO MUCH better and you will be SO RICH" bs. Yeah, nope. However, as many others have mentioned, you have options (I have tried multiple of the below and am now in a job I like, PM me if you want to chat); have listed them all for reference, not saying it's an exhaustive list but maybe it helps:
I think in life you should decide what to optimize for and then go for it. So if you want to optimize for happiness and you don't think what you're doing right now is it, then go pursue it. Maybe you've already saved lots of money and aren't too fussed taking a big pay cut. If that's the case, then do it if you think it'll make you happier. You don't even have to do corp strat. If you want to go into marketing, just go into marketing - might take going back to school a bit, but lots of people change careers.
Also, it's ok to change your mind. Maybe you did want to do finance/PE at one point, but now you don't. That's okay. People are allowed to change their minds. You don't have to be held hostage by decision made by high school or uni you. You still have a whole life ahead :)
well, plenty of people in finance don't care about margin profiles and such. it's just a job. I also don't care about such things and would rather browse skin care products and read up on nutrition, and I'm a man in finance. just gotta do what pays.
I too, wish I were a marketing girly (I am a guy).
I 100% agree with the people saying IR
Cilantro is more nutritious than kale, maybe target companies like goop, kindbody etc, who will value your experience but by nature of the field offer better quality of life. good luck
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Then just be a marketing girl. You can get interviews with that prestigious PE background
You came here saying you’re a girly girl who wants to do Pilates and ended up arguing with some dude over competing with men. You understand how this looks right?
Del
sup
Damn you really in private credit? A lot of people from my school (including me) tried to break into private credit bc it's so popular now and failed
This is the 3rd comment I've seen from this guy hitting on women bankers in this thread alone. I can almost smell the Creed Silver Mountain Water and the Glenlivet 18 on his breath. Hoping this guy isn't married.
I feel you because I’ve been / I’m going through the same. What enables me to lift my head up is spending time with my friends and family who love me for who I am, independently from what job I do. Do you talk things out, fully with all your frustration and desire to do things differently, with your friends and family?
Then you need to reach out and speak to people, all sectors all industries. The father of one of my best friends - he’s been a CEO of multiple companies - told me once “it’s the people you talk to that make you steer your career in one direction or another, as they can spark an interest in you, towards a sector, a role, a function, that you’d never think of”.
There is no right or wrong answer to what your next career step is, as long as you are yourself.
So go get them tiger!
Corporate Strategy will only pay about half of what PE associate pay does so you will have a harder time paying for your "vitamin c serums and Pilates and kale". Find something in finance with a better WLB so its still interesting but less stress. Its out there. Try niche areas of PE
💅💅💅
Investor relations seems like a pretty obvious path
I looked into this, specifically at places like PJT Camberview, and was told the hours can still be ass like 60+ a week, definitely far more demanding than marketing
Have heard this as well
This is fascinating. It has long been hypothesized that turning Hoe into Housewife is an impossible chemical transformation. IBanker Hardo to Trad Wife on the other hand....potentially doable?
I'm routing for you shawty. I hope you never work more than 30 hours a week again, and its always remote, and you get to do yoga and pet dogs all day then welcome your Big Law Partner husband home with a perfect old fashioned. Idk who tf convinced some of these beautiful girls that Trad Wife lifestyle is NOT peak human performance.
N/A.
"Better than the men" is such a joke lmfao
I wanna be born as marketing girlie in my next life fr fr. It’s why I be volunteering on the weekends these days 😔
Honestly almost every woman in finance has had this thought at some point. If you’re not running from a toxic workplace, you clearly see no future in this industry, so if you’re moderately attractive, just leave.
Lots of us don’t leave because we can’t tolerate any of:
That being said, you’d really better at least be moderately attractive because marketing / fashion jobs are close to 100% bullshit and looks are really how you get hired. Looks are also how you get any of the other 2 options.
Also, because these jobs are close to 100% bullshit and looks are pretty much what matters… prepare for a lot of cat fights from less attractive women. (Source: was in PWM before leaving to IB)
yikes...as a girlie entering finance your comment has really scared me. what kind of men are we supposed to date then?
Tech guys :). We make bank, have tons of free time to spend with you, and a lot of us went through an ugly duckling phase growing up, so we’re attractive now but with a great personality as well (I’m totally not biased)
edit: damn I made a lot of finance bros mad, oops 😚
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