Freindzone to Dating, how to transition?

Hey Monkeys,

I've noticed a lot of dating tips on here, so here goes. How exactly do you transition a freind that is a girl into a serious relationship? Is it even possible. Do you set up dates...then what? How to close the deal..

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Start treating her like a girl you'd want to date not a friend and simultaneously bang one of her close friends. Seriously, bring your A game and give it to her friend real good.

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Simple As... simultaneously bang one of her close friends. Seriously, bring your A game and give it to her friend real good.

Make sure the friend you pick is as/more attractive than her too, really get in her head. You would think girls would be against this because of some honor code or something but on the whole they are down to clown.

This to all my hatin' folks seeing me getting guac right now..
 
Cruncharoo Simple As...:

simultaneously bang one of her close friends. Seriously, bring your A game and give it to her friend real good.

Make sure the friend you pick is as/more attractive than her too, really get in her head. You would think girls would be against this because of some honor code or something but on the whole they are down to clown.

All funny, but true advice. My ex always used to ask which of her friends were prettiest, etc, etc.

People demand freedom of speech as a compensation for freedom of thought which they seldom use.
 

God, they all troll you.

At first just start a conversation about relationships and in one of those moments when she talks, you could drop something like " I'd like to be with someone just like you (thinking face ...then you draw a smile like -hey I'm not that serious about it)...you know we enjoy being with each other. We make it simple :)". Then if she is interested, she would fool around "Really?? Why???" (insert here sparkling eyes, attention up to 100% and that stupid honeyed voice).

If she goes along and fools around, then you can pass sloooooooowly from friendzone to chemistry zone. If not then..no chance.

 
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Aether

God, they all troll you.

At first just start a conversation about relationships and in one of those moments when she talks, you could drop something like " I'd like to be with someone just like you (thinking face ...then you draw a smile like -hey I'm not that serious about it)...you know we enjoy being with each other. We make it simple :)". Then if she is interested, she would fool around "Really?? Why???" (insert here sparkling eyes, attention up to 100% and that stupid honeyed voice).

If she goes along and fools around, then you can pass sloooooooowly from friendzone to chemistry zone. If not then..no chance.

You know that Indian comedian who's pretty fucking funny? You know he always talks about his weirdo nephew Chester or some shit. No, Harris.

I feel like Harris wrote this.

 

Bang her friends. It might not change anything but at least you're getting laid. Seriously, one chick doesn't want to sleep with you.....GET OVER IT AND MOVE ON.

Get busy living
 

This thread progressed almost exactly as expected.

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Edmundo Braverman

As almost every serious reply has indicated, you have to cut her hottest friend out of the herd and pound her out like she owes you money.

As for @Aether's advice, well, I don't even know what to fucking say. Are you in 7th grade?

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Edmundo Braverman

As almost every serious reply has indicated, you have to cut her hottest friend out of the herd and pound her out like she owes you money.

As for @Aether's advice, well, I don't even know what to fucking say. Are you in 7th grade?

Probably just a woman

People demand freedom of speech as a compensation for freedom of thought which they seldom use.
 

@Edmundo Braverman: sure...banging or cutting her prettiest friend is being mature ;)...hell yeah I must have not been in my mind when I wrote that.

But gosh seriously? This thread is just laughable. I should have stayed out of it..I've learnt the lesson.

 

I have feelings for this girl, I'm not sure if she does or doesn't. I don't want to sabotage it by hitting on her freinds man

 
RealMeal

I have feelings for this girl, I'm not sure if she does or doesn't. I don't want to sabotage it by hitting on her freinds man

You should hit on everyone by default. Some more subtly than others. Makes life more fun.
 
RealMeal

I have feelings for this girl, I'm not sure if she does or doesn't. I don't want to sabotage it by hitting on her freinds man

You're so fucked bro

in it 2 win it
 

You're not going to ruin a relationship that doesn't exist. If she says something, then you tell her the truth and say that you weren't sure if she had feelings for you.

 

Lol at sticking around with a girl long enough to get friendzoned in the first place. If you're not banging within the first couple interactions then I have some bad news for you cuz...

 
Stryfe

Lol at sticking around with a girl long enough to get friendzoned in the first place. If you're not banging within the first couple interactions then I have some bad news for you cuz...

I agree with the above.

 
DickFuld

Make sure you lick it, before you stick it with her friends. Word gets around and you want to be known as that guy.

Make sure you get the order down right because you DON'T want to be known as the guy who sticks it then licks it.
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To clarify Eddie's point: if you're not actually interested in being just friends, you take the shot and make it a clear "YES" or "NO" question. You already have friends.

Yes or no. That's all there is.

If yes, great. If not, realize she's already probably fucking someone else and it's never going to be you. So deal with your shit and [nicely] confront her. And hold her to it....if she's strung you along to this point, she'll take it further if you let her. Because that's what women do, who fucking cares why. Be a big kid and stick up for yourself.

Yes or no.

That's all there is.

You can 'be friends', maybe, but not until that is addressed.

Get busy living
 

These threads need their own forum, so great...

In a twist of irony, I'm going to quote Al Einstein, because he apparently knew everything about everything:

"We can not solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them"

You created this problem for yourself because you suppressed your desires to begin with, classic beta male trap. So I'm going to have to agree with the general group here (except Aether)...you're going to have to switch to being bold & aggressive and/or manipulate her emotions (through her friends for instance) to break through the friendzone shield you created for yourself.

 

Feel ya, broski.

Similar here with the slight difference that it's been on for long and I, myself, wasn't sure whether I want to go beyond it. Recently figured that I would actually like to, however, and the chess game has begun...

@Edmundo - Banging her friends is something I thought of. And as far as I have noticed she is kind of jealous when bitches stick around, so if she hears that FROM her friend it might close the deal indeed.

 

Girls are unbelievably simple creatures whether they realize it or not. They want what every other girl wants, plain and simple. Getting girls is like creating a giant Snowball, it's hard at first but once it gets going it's effortless. That's why that clown justin beiber gets so much ass while being a complete tool box. He hit the proverbial "critical mass of ass" needed for self-perpetuation.

As for advice, I'd break it down by your age:
1) College aged to a max of a couple years out- fuck someone hotter than her and make sure she finds out. Shows you're in demand (see above), guarantee she'll have a change of heart. 2) Older than group 1- move on. Games are all good and well up to a point, then they just become a nuisance. Not to mention that girls that still fall for them at that point aren't worth it. 2a) If you "kinda" liked her, keep her as a friend and move on. 2b) If you "really" liked her, burn the bridge. I'm talking you don't even know who she is anymore. Trust me on this, if you really like her it's gonna kill you to see her dating other guys and shit. Completely avoid her and go back to fishing.

 

Well she's single but I'm not sure if she's looking for anything right now. I've talked to her but never bring up relationship or anything else. Im gonna keep it as freinds for now because i'm close to her. I'll see what happens in the future but i wont let it hold me back

 
RealMeal

Well she's single but I'm not sure if she's looking for anything right now. I've talked to her but never bring up relationship or anything else. Im gonna keep it as freinds for now because i'm close to her. I'll see what happens in the future but i wont let it hold me back

I had this talk with a friend over the weekend, and had to explicitly state the logical mistakes he was making. It comes down to how realistic you are with yourself, which unfortunately many younger bros aren't.

  • "not looking for anything" is an uncommon state of mind to be in, for a man or woman. You should consider the probability that she isn't looking for anything with you and likely just hasn't found anything she's willing to pursue yet.
  • If you've never brought up issues of intimacy, good on you. That's your common sense working for you. It's saying "dude just shut the fuck up, she's clearly not into you." Keep it that way.

My suggestion: stop hanging out with her, lift weights, go fuck some women you don't know. This should solve 99% of your issues, Certified User guaranteed.

in it 2 win it
 

I dont know, just ask. what do you have to lose? if shes a "close" friend she'll stay friends. otherwise man up, grab your balls and do what men been doing for centuries.

Omnia Causa Fiunt
 
Dr.Seuss Getting girls is like creating a giant Snowball, it's hard at first but once it gets going it's effortless. That's why that clown justin beiber gets so much ass while being a complete tool box. He hit the proverbial "critical mass of ass" needed for self-perpetuation.

Never thought I'd hear something profound about getting girls from Dr. Seuss. Quite an upgrade from Green Eggs and Ham.

Seriously though, if you can't be straight about it with her, you're fucked. Sticking with a girl that's interested is one thing, but staying "just friends" is toxic. It messes you up in the head. Everyone's advice about "fuck her friend" might seem like a dick move, the truth is that's the kind of thing you need to do. Get some distance on her whether by screwing her friends or some other girls, and either A. you realize she wasn't worth the trouble, or B. you get the balls to actually ask her out.

At the end of the day, it's really a confidence issue. If she's really that special, it's that you don't have the guts to say anything. If she's not really that special, it's that you don't believe you could get close to another girl as good as her. Either way, man up and make a decision. Good luck.

 

Sorry for the double post, but just thought of something else. You might not want to make a move because you "don't want to ruin the relationship," but right now, until you tell her how you feel, the expected value of this relationship is zero. Not close to zero, but zero.

I've got many close female friends as a straight male (no mutual interest), and I can tell you that if she thinks you're a friend, you're just a friend, now and forever. Yep, Hollywood lied to you. Surprise, surprise. So if you're some kind of masochist and enjoy the Chinese water torture of the friendzone, by all means, don't do anything. Otherwise, do something about it.

 

Do not tell her how you feel! If it's not there, it's not there. Spilling your feelings when there's no obvious attraction from her toward you will just freak her out. Any chick I was "friends" with I had previously banged or I could tell I could bang her whenever I wanted to.

 

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