Freindzone to Dating, how to transition?
Hey Monkeys,
I've noticed a lot of dating tips on here, so here goes. How exactly do you transition a freind that is a girl into a serious relationship? Is it even possible. Do you set up dates...then what? How to close the deal..
Assuming that your smart, nice, attractive, ect., you make an offer that she can't refuse.
Find out what she likes. Ask other friends. Apply this to the above post.
Start treating her like a girl you'd want to date not a friend and simultaneously bang one of her close friends. Seriously, bring your A game and give it to her friend real good.
Make sure the friend you pick is as/more attractive than her too, really get in her head. You would think girls would be against this because of some honor code or something but on the whole they are down to clown.
All funny, but true advice. My ex always used to ask which of her friends were prettiest, etc, etc.
If he can't bang the first girl, how's he going to bang her hotter friend?
My advice is - you got friendzoned because your "friend-that's-a-girl-but-not-your-girlfriend" doesn't find you attractive physically. So you'll have to change that.
Ask her to a friendly date. Make sure it's on the 14th of Feb. As the wine is flowing and the smooth jazz is playing, you look deep into her eyes, and tell her it's time to progress to the next level in your platonic relationship. Proceed to coitus, with or without her.
Go to Vegas. Get wasted. Deny annulment.
Bam. Relationship.
What makes you think this girl wants to be in a relationship with you? Chances are she doesn't.
God, they all troll you.
At first just start a conversation about relationships and in one of those moments when she talks, you could drop something like " I'd like to be with someone just like you (thinking face ...then you draw a smile like -hey I'm not that serious about it)...you know we enjoy being with each other. We make it simple :)". Then if she is interested, she would fool around "Really?? Why???" (insert here sparkling eyes, attention up to 100% and that stupid honeyed voice).
If she goes along and fools around, then you can pass sloooooooowly from friendzone to chemistry zone. If not then..no chance.
I feel like Harris wrote this.
@ManInJeans ... Yes!! Nailed it. +1 Btw I agree...he's amazing.
Please stop
damn. I'm too beta to attempt any of this. Guess I'll swallow the red pill
Bang her friends. It might not change anything but at least you're getting laid. Seriously, one chick doesn't want to sleep with you.....GET OVER IT AND MOVE ON.
lead with the head
This thread progressed almost exactly as expected.
We are nothing if not predictable when it comes to threads about women.
As almost every serious reply has indicated, you have to cut her hottest friend out of the herd and pound her out like she owes you money.
As for @"Aether"'s advice, well, I don't even know what to fucking say. Are you in 7th grade?
Probably just a woman
@Edmundo Braverman: sure...banging or cutting her prettiest friend is being mature ;)...hell yeah I must have not been in my mind when I wrote that.
But gosh seriously? This thread is just laughable. I should have stayed out of it..I've learnt the lesson.
He's definitely not in 7th grade; 7th graders are a lot more lascivious than that.
I have feelings for this girl, I'm not sure if she does or doesn't. I don't want to sabotage it by hitting on her freinds man
You're so fucked bro
You're not going to ruin a relationship that doesn't exist. If she says something, then you tell her the truth and say that you weren't sure if she had feelings for you.
timber: she says she won't but I bet she will
Lol at sticking around with a girl long enough to get friendzoned in the first place. If you're not banging within the first couple interactions then I have some bad news for you cuz...
I agree with the above.
Make sure you lick it, before you stick it with her friends. Word gets around and you want to be known as that guy.
I agree.
No fingering? Disappointed :(
Hate to break it to you bro, but if you're friends with her she's not interested in hooking up or dating you. That's how it works.
If you want to go for it, tell how you feel one night after you two have had a few drinks. See what she says. But don't say WSO didn't warn you - you're friend zoned for good.
To clarify Eddie's point: if you're not actually interested in being just friends, you take the shot and make it a clear "YES" or "NO" question. You already have friends.
Yes or no. That's all there is.
If yes, great. If not, realize she's already probably fucking someone else and it's never going to be you. So deal with your shit and [nicely] confront her. And hold her to it....if she's strung you along to this point, she'll take it further if you let her. Because that's what women do, who fucking cares why. Be a big kid and stick up for yourself.
Yes or no.
That's all there is.
You can 'be friends', maybe, but not until that is addressed.
These threads need their own forum, so great...
In a twist of irony, I'm going to quote Al Einstein, because he apparently knew everything about everything:
"We can not solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them"
You created this problem for yourself because you suppressed your desires to begin with, classic beta male trap. So I'm going to have to agree with the general group here (except Aether)...you're going to have to switch to being bold & aggressive and/or manipulate her emotions (through her friends for instance) to break through the friendzone shield you created for yourself.
Seconded. Some golden advice on here. LMFAO.
Take back everything I said!
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Good luck OP!
I've heard good things from people that use this guide.
Amazing. I can't believe I've watched this.
RealMeal... RatinaMaze? coincidence I think NOT!
I always hear guys giving relatively sound advice to one another, and then I see them acting like herbs in public.
How about you just ask her out, dipshit
Feel ya, broski.
Similar here with the slight difference that it's been on for long and I, myself, wasn't sure whether I want to go beyond it. Recently figured that I would actually like to, however, and the chess game has begun...
@Edmundo - Banging her friends is something I thought of. And as far as I have noticed she is kind of jealous when bitches stick around, so if she hears that FROM her friend it might close the deal indeed.
Girls are unbelievably simple creatures whether they realize it or not. They want what every other girl wants, plain and simple. Getting girls is like creating a giant Snowball, it's hard at first but once it gets going it's effortless. That's why that clown justin beiber gets so much ass while being a complete tool box. He hit the proverbial "critical mass of ass" needed for self-perpetuation.
As for advice, I'd break it down by your age:
1) College aged to a max of a couple years out- fuck someone hotter than her and make sure she finds out. Shows you're in demand (see above), guarantee she'll have a change of heart. 2) Older than group 1- move on. Games are all good and well up to a point, then they just become a nuisance. Not to mention that girls that still fall for them at that point aren't worth it. 2a) If you "kinda" liked her, keep her as a friend and move on. 2b) If you "really" liked her, burn the bridge. I'm talking you don't even know who she is anymore. Trust me on this, if you really like her it's gonna kill you to see her dating other guys and shit. Completely avoid her and go back to fishing.
+1.
Well she's single but I'm not sure if she's looking for anything right now. I've talked to her but never bring up relationship or anything else. Im gonna keep it as freinds for now because i'm close to her. I'll see what happens in the future but i wont let it hold me back
I had this talk with a friend over the weekend, and had to explicitly state the logical mistakes he was making. It comes down to how realistic you are with yourself, which unfortunately many younger bros aren't.
My suggestion: stop hanging out with her, lift weights, go fuck some women you don't know. This should solve 99% of your issues, Certified User guaranteed.
I dont know, just ask. what do you have to lose? if shes a "close" friend she'll stay friends. otherwise man up, grab your balls and do what men been doing for centuries.
Never thought I'd hear something profound about getting girls from Dr. Seuss. Quite an upgrade from Green Eggs and Ham.
Seriously though, if you can't be straight about it with her, you're fucked. Sticking with a girl that's interested is one thing, but staying "just friends" is toxic. It messes you up in the head. Everyone's advice about "fuck her friend" might seem like a dick move, the truth is that's the kind of thing you need to do. Get some distance on her whether by screwing her friends or some other girls, and either A. you realize she wasn't worth the trouble, or B. you get the balls to actually ask her out.
At the end of the day, it's really a confidence issue. If she's really that special, it's that you don't have the guts to say anything. If she's not really that special, it's that you don't believe you could get close to another girl as good as her. Either way, man up and make a decision. Good luck.
Sorry for the double post, but just thought of something else. You might not want to make a move because you "don't want to ruin the relationship," but right now, until you tell her how you feel, the expected value of this relationship is zero. Not close to zero, but zero.
I've got many close female friends as a straight male (no mutual interest), and I can tell you that if she thinks you're a friend, you're just a friend, now and forever. Yep, Hollywood lied to you. Surprise, surprise. So if you're some kind of masochist and enjoy the Chinese water torture of the friendzone, by all means, don't do anything. Otherwise, do something about it.
drinking
I'll just leave this here:
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Sent this image to a friend.
just tell her man. Dont be so scared. have some confidence and just straight up tell her!
Do not tell her how you feel! If it's not there, it's not there. Spilling your feelings when there's no obvious attraction from her toward you will just freak her out. Any chick I was "friends" with I had previously banged or I could tell I could bang her whenever I wanted to.
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You don't
a semi-relevant reddit post- I once helped out my a female friend's family by taking care of their cat for a week. Every day for a week, I would go over there and snoop around their house. I found my friend's diary, and proceeded to read the entire thing. I used this information to get her to like me, and she is currently my wife.
You creepy fuck. Bravo.
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