In one more hour I am meeting with my boss and gonna inform him that I will be doing my MBA this fall.
I FEEL LIKE CRAP. I know it is the right decision for many personal and professional reasons, but still I feel like crap. This is my third job and never had a problem resigning before.
They would have no problem letting you go if they thought it would be better for the firm. You are making a decision that's best for you. Don't worry about it!
you're the one going to MIT Sloan, right?
if i remember correctly, you like your job and your co-workers depend on you. it will be tough, but it must be done. you still have 4 or 5 months before classes start... just let them know that in this time, you'll do whatever it takes to minimize the impact of your resignation.
best of luck.
Yes, I am the one going to MIT.
Heading to my boss'es office. Wish me luck
He'll understand. Make sure its very clear that you'll work just as hard as you have been up until the time that you leave.
Let us know how it goes. I'm resigning tomorrow :)
ill keep your seat warm if you want...
remember to resign in the most prestigious way possible.
It's a natural feeling. After being in industry for several years and having always had a fairly easy way to chart your future, you're giving that up for a lot of uncertainty and a lot of cash going out the door. It's a scary feeling I have been feeling like crap since the day I mailed in the acceptance.
That doesn't change the fact that rationally, you're making the right move, that your stock investments are simply transferring into a new kind of investment that offers a much better CPI-adjusted return.
When you go through these transitions in life, you look back over the past few years and ask yourself if you had the human experience. I found myself saying that 22-25 were supposed to be the best years of my life, and now they're gone, and found myself getting depressed about that. I finally talked about it a bit over a beer with some WSO friends, and Frieds' response was "Relax, [IP]. Trust me, it gets better." And he's right.
Until it doesn't.
I'm not trying to be Debbie Downer here, but you'll reach a point in life when your best years truly are behind you and there isn't a lot left to look forward to (aside from the peace and quiet of death's sweet embrace).
But yeah, spend more of your 20s and 30s in the office. lol
haha, thanks for turning my existential crisis into a full-blown depression lolll
What an absurd statement. For one, several studies have revealed that adults' happiest decade is their 60s, when they've got empty nests, followed by their 50s. Another recent study showed that the happiest age is 33. You haven't lived at 25 and know nothing about life. It's people who amount to nothing and get fat when they get older saying "ahhh, High school, now THOSE were the days."
you sound miserable edmundo lol
Resigning with something lined up afterwards has to be one of the greatest things ever in my opinion. I was smiling ear to ear when I told my boss I was bouncing even though I got along great with my team.
Mid-8 as in 4? Sorry bud, if you're not past that yet, it just might not happen for you.
Recent research has actually shown that people rate their highest relative happiness at an age of about 32-33. With a surprisingly small std dev. But yeah, after that, it's all downhill haha.
good luck lifeoonpurpose - let us know how it goes...
also, thanks for the kick in the ass on making WSO better in your "Social Network" thread. Have a meeting with my developers later today to talk about a "My feed" feature that allows users to see new content from their WSO friends and members they follow (ideally we'll be able to add in Companies here as well so that when a new review, comp data point, etc shows up, it also comes into your feed)....
May take us a while to get this right, but we're working on it. and stay tuned for aesthetic improvements as well...we have a professional graphic designer on board now, so things will improve (even if they are slow).
Thanks, Patrick
Love this idea.
who wrote your recommendations?
no need to feel bad...tell him you have someone that will take over your job and I'll be there in a week
Personally, i cant wait til i'm living in Paris sipping on Bourbon at 2pm on a weekday and reminiscing about the" glory days to a bunch of star struck college kids
Eddie, how is it possible that every day is the same if you're not working?
We just had a 60 year old launch a hang glider off the mountain for the first time a few weekends ago. And our instructor is deathly afraid of heights, but is fine with hang gliding.
Might be something new to try.
Can't find anything for hang gliding in france with a quick search, but it seems like paragliding is popular out near you:
http://www.fly-chamonix.com/
OP,
I recently resigned from my firm and from what I can gather it sounds like we were in a fairly similar boat. I spent 3.5 years at my firm and I became very instrumental to its success. My boss and peers were very good to me and I wouldn't trade the experience for anything. While I'm not going to business school...yet, I began to feel a lack of fulfillment around the three year mark. Once you begin to question your current position there is no going back.
At the end of the day it's just business. Resigning was a hard thing for me simply because I really enjoyed the people I worked with. Don't feel bad about it. It's your life and you're simply looking to maximize your future success. Have fun at Sloan.
making a mountain out of a molehill here. they will find a replacement for OP to chop the lettuce at Chipotle. and a University of Phoenix MBA doesn't count.
Aite guys..chill the fuck out...you all live in 1st world countries...and don't have problems like going to bed hungry...or going to sleep on a fucking bed
Whenever I look back at my past, i don't think of regrets but of the experiences I had. So live in the now, cultivate as many experiences you can and keep on truckin
OP make sure to explain your boss in an amiable and clear way. You never know you might be back there after an MBA :)
OK, i talked to him, he was really really supportive. I am really happy about how things turned around. My boss had kids by the age of 20 so he never actually got to "risk it", but has a CFA, CQF, FRM and a bunch of other certificates. So when i told him, the nerd inside him got really excited when i told him it was MIT.
Paying deposit on Thrusday and gonna start with all the paper work. I have to confess that I still feel a nod in my stomach but it has to be done.
congrats. Always do whats right for you
if it were my older boss i would have been thrown out of the window.
happiness can be found at any age, eddie stop depressing us
Says the single guy in Buenos Aires, lol.
Well, as far as I'm concern, Andy is pimping. I mean, having a girlfriend is like having a kid: you have to give her love, affection, protection, mental support, etc etc etc.
Andy is probably getting the benefits of having a girl without the downside of it while enjoying the great weather they have down there.
The old boss sounds like a youtube opportunity. Wait for a day when the wind is calm, walk in with a BASE chute, tell him you quit, then jump out the window.
I just turned 25 and feel like I'm in the best shape of my life right now. I can't play halfback in a 90 minute soccer match like I could when I was 8, 10 or 12 but other than that, strength and distance running wise I'm climbing towards a peak (haven't reached it yet).
The day I lose my athleticism, fearlessness in freestyle skiing and ability to take a fall is the day I will feel like I have peaked and it's all downhill from there. Hopefully that day is at least 10-15 years away.
Athletic skill increases from ages 20-35 (roughly), most professional hockey players hit their peak when they're ~28
i left on monday
booya, funemployment
I already feel like everyday is the same as a 23 yr old. This thread is not making me feel good about the rest of my life.
Your reason for resigning is valid so don't worry about it. I'm sure your boss will understand your situation. He will surely understand that an MBA is very important for executives now a days as this will improve your professional skills.
Guys, I realize it's poor form for a guy in my circumstances to bitch - which is why I never do it. For some reason IP's angst about getting older compelled me to comment (mostly because I empathize with him). Don't think for a minute that I don't realize what a lucky sonofabitch I am.
If there's any piece of advice I can give (and then I won't speak of it again), it's to avoid getting yourself into situations from which there is no immediate exit. Neil McCauley said it best in Heat:
"Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner."
This thread is epicly deep, you're all making me feel like I have nothing but time.
If only Neil had taken his own advice... Can't say I wouldn't have done the same though.
Hmmm. I feel like I should report some of you boys to the suicide hotline...
i made it a point to tell everyone on my team how much i would be making (%wise).
damn it feels good to be a bankster.
I already feel bored (sometimes) when i'm at my internship (IB). Maybe I should switch before I end up depressed in a couple of years:P
Life is all about constanly staying excited about something and having cool shit to look forward to. I always set something up within a month or so away that i can dream about while slaving. It also helps to find something you really enjoy doing after a long stressful day (for me it is cooking and drinking a good wine/beer). I consider myself a pretty damn happy person and try to never get too stressed about anything...
Guys, work is work and the grass will always be greener. I'm in grad school right now and while it's a step-up from the BO job I was at in terms of boredom, it's very hard and I have yet to find an internship. But while I hope I finally find a spot where I'm "in the flow" (things are challenging but I can do them), the best times I have are spent with friends and doing more or less stupid stuff. Part of being an adult is making that happen on your own. You no longer have a dorm or classmates to naturally hang out with, you just have to make it happen on your own. I realize that's tough for your typical IBD analyst, but if you make your free time count every once in a while, you'll feel a whole lot better.
THIS sums up everything in this thread and being 24 years old....
http://www.buzzfeed.com/thefalafel/the-official-anthem-for-24-year-old-…
To me, the plan is that you get into finance, you retire at 35 and then, spend your time doing research in theoretical physics or something related.
Just to think about it gets me all excited.
Human children are a fucking disaster from an ROI standpoint.
When a mare foals, her colt gets on his feet three hours later and basically goes on about the business of being a horse for the rest of his life. Human children require 18+ fucking years of abject dependency before they even think about being functional within their own species.
Hell, most of you fuckers are probably well into your 20's and still dependent on mom and dad. Let me let you in on a little secret: they hate you for it.
Why would they hate us? I mean, we didn't asked to be here.
Well, if they're dumb enough to have kids when not prepared, I guess I can keep having them to keep paying for everything as much as I want. haha
that's why human children shouldn't be viewed as investments.
That's not obvious at all. It's perfectly reasonable to assume some of those people are just glad to have their lives back.
Congrats! You are making a big move in your professional and personal life. It was probably tough to leave your stable job, but going to a top b-school like sloan is more than worth it. I wish you the best of luck; you are going to have the best 2 years of your life, something that you definitely won't forget.
wb lol
oh brady i knew you couldn't stay away. welcome back.
Could it be sour grapes?
Most of you are not anti-kids... You're just poor and can't afford them*... This would change with an increase in your income and when you're spouses start to want offspring.
Many of my friends in their late 20s / early 30s have started to have families & children. On average they seem far happier than their single peers. Having said that, their children are still quite young (mostly babies and 2 year olds), so they haven't had to deal with the financial pressure in a big way yet.
How many of you guys are in the position of owning or renting a home/apartment suitable for a family of 3 to raise a kid until they're 18?
I feel it is the financial strain of supporting your sons and daughters until their early adulthood that gets most people. Having one kid is not too onerous for couples with high paying jobs. Instead of buying fancy cars you will pay for private schools and university and will rent or own a larger house / apartment.
How many of you could support a child and give them a similar lifestyle to the one you were accustomed to growing up? What about school fees?
I remember the thread asking about having a couple of roommates while being an IBD Associate... This is white collar poverty. You need to have a life before you can have your life back.
To the OP, best of luck with B-School and beyond.
*Note: Eddie's is the outlier case...
I'm 33, own a 4 bedroom house with the wife, have $1M+ liquid, and the income trajectory keeps climbing every year. Now, granted, mine will stagnate for a couple years while I'm in school, but I have some plans that make me think it will pay off in the end.
Either way, I'm not poor, and can certainly afford them. I just have zero interest in breeding expensive parasites that I'm legally obligated to support. So that's two of us in a thread of maybe 20 posters. I'd call 10% a trend, not an outlier :)
I agree. I have a daugther and will be getting a vasectomy. As an only child, I have also seen the great benefits of a lean family structure. And let's face it, the world is overpopulated enough.
What worries me is that it's intelligent professional people that are opting out of the procreation process while the underclass continues to breed like bacteria at the expense of our taxes.
what idiot is 1 millimeter liquid
LMAO
u kno it's a recession whe nsome one who owns 5 bedrooms in chicago can't even afford a swimming pool
RIGHT SWAGGON?
in here we use a 200/1 thumb rule for livable annuity at age of 60. if you want i can run some numbers for you. At what age do you want to retire and how much do you want monthly?
10k a month and wanna retire at 60
at 60 (from 60-70) you can use the thumb rule i said before to get an approximate value of the required saving. 10k * 200 = 2 Million
I'm a Darwinist so I believe that the only point in life is to procreate. Won't do it before the age of 30 though, because I can't risk giving my kids a rough life. (fighting too much with the spouse etc.) I need to be mature enough.
When you make the leap from Darwinism to Nihilism, everything gets more entertaining. Watching humanity self-destruct is one of my few remaining pleasures.
Can't wait!
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