Would you guys marry a poor chick from a poor family?

I wouldn't and the MAIN reason is that I don't want her family become a liability to me. Trust me I have seen first hand, and it breaks families.

I had a conversation with a friend last week about this subject and he told me I was too picky. He even said that he would marry a waitress; I told him I wouldn't and he looked at me as if I was crazy. I want to marry a woman who is independent and who would be more of an asset than liability. Now I'm not saying I want a Paris Hilton but I would prefer my wife at least be from a upper middle class background. There are pros and cons to marrying chicks from humble backgrounds but the cons outweigh the pros for me. When a lot of humble chicks get a taste for money, they become greedier than even some rich chicks. This is due to the fact that they grew up with nothing and now feel that they are deserve the money since they grew up poor (like most celebrity divorces when a rich man marries a poor woman, she leaves with half and starts flossing with the guy's money like she's the baddest bitch).

I know I'm going to get shit thrown at me for this but I feel that this is a legit topic especially since most of us on this board have aspirations to become Big Swinging Dicks someday. With that said, let's discuss.

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My dream woman simplified in a single sentence.

I agree with OP, to an extent; If she has the drive to get a job then as long as she's productive in her life

I have dreams of being a big shot in a 911 GT...
 

It's not about their background, it's about their own desire for a career. Let the impoverished parents live off the state, it's not your problem.

Just don't marry a girl who is looking to stay home and spend your money. By the way, the GS chick is probably looking to get knocked up by an MD and quit. Bitches hate working and that is why it's important to find one that will.

 

Dude, don't be a dumbass...the older you get the more you'll realize you just want someone that will make you happy when you come home from a 100 week at the office. It doesn't really matter what they do. Obviously you don't want someone that will just be out spending all your money on diamonds and vacations while your at the office. Hopefully they will at least have a decent 40 hour/week job. But come on man, don't be an idiot.

 

Well I agree the guy is a little tasteless.

My girls immediately family is quite wealthy, think middle wealthy in a foreign country. One of her family members married into one of the top 5 richest families in her country. The dad in that family is worth a cool 660 million. I found that out through wikipedia haha.

Although I knew none of this the first year we were dating so it never factored in that she was wealthy.

The one who does not fall, does not stand up
 
suo1987:
I wouldn't and the MAIN reason is that I don't want her family become a liability to me. Trust me I have seen first hand, and it breaks families.

I had a conversation with a friend last week about this subject and he told me I was too picky. He even said that he would marry a waitress; I told him I wouldn't and he looked at me as if I was crazy. I want to marry a woman who is independent and who would be more of an asset than liability. Now I'm not saying I want a Paris Hilton but I would prefer my wife at least be from a upper middle class background. There are pros and cons to marrying chicks from humble backgrounds but the cons outweigh the pros for me. When a lot of humble chicks get a taste for money, they become greedier than even some rich chicks. This is due to the fact that they grew up with nothing and now feel that they are deserve the money since they grew up poor (like most celebrity divorces when a rich man marries a poor woman, she leaves with half and starts flossing with the guy's money like she's the baddest bitch).

I know I'm going to get shit thrown at me for this but I feel that this is a legit topic especially since most of us on this board have aspirations to become Big Swinging Dicks someday. With that said, let's discuss.

i ask you this...

  1. what do you bring to the table?
  2. rich or poor no one wants an idiot and you sound like one....

power of the P will win everytime.. you say you would not marry a waitress but when that great looking waitress is making your toes curl you feel like you found a little slice of heaven.... you;re a kid so i will guess dont have a lot of exp with women... but end of the day.. you dont hold as many cards as you think you do.. most women dont give a crap about yout job or your pay.. as long as you can provide.. and thats not diamonds and pearls... its simple stuff.. trust me.. you think you are a great package but women get offers everyday from men for stuff simply for having a P... its true...

 
monty09:
suo1987:
I wouldn't and the MAIN reason is that I don't want her family become a liability to me. Trust me I have seen first hand, and it breaks families.

I had a conversation with a friend last week about this subject and he told me I was too picky. He even said that he would marry a waitress; I told him I wouldn't and he looked at me as if I was crazy. I want to marry a woman who is independent and who would be more of an asset than liability. Now I'm not saying I want a Paris Hilton but I would prefer my wife at least be from a upper middle class background. There are pros and cons to marrying chicks from humble backgrounds but the cons outweigh the pros for me. When a lot of humble chicks get a taste for money, they become greedier than even some rich chicks. This is due to the fact that they grew up with nothing and now feel that they are deserve the money since they grew up poor (like most celebrity divorces when a rich man marries a poor woman, she leaves with half and starts flossing with the guy's money like she's the baddest bitch).

I know I'm going to get shit thrown at me for this but I feel that this is a legit topic especially since most of us on this board have aspirations to become Big Swinging Dicks someday. With that said, let's discuss.

i ask you this...

  1. what do you bring to the table?
  2. rich or poor no one wants an idiot and you sound like one....

power of the P will win everytime.. you say you would not marry a waitress but when that great looking waitress is making your toes curl you feel like you found a little slice of heaven.... you;re a kid so i will guess dont have a lot of exp with women... but end of the day.. you dont hold as many cards as you think you do.. most women dont give a crap about yout job or your pay.. as long as you can provide.. and thats not diamonds and pearls... its simple stuff.. trust me.. you think you are a great package but women get offers everyday from men for stuff simply for having a P... its true...

What exactly is the power of P (sorry if this is a stupid question)?.

As for the OP, I am from a relatively poor family (foreign) and can confirm the practice of sending money to parents back home (I plan to do that myself). I also plan to help out my spouse's parents (if I ever get married) if they need it. My dad did it all his life even though he didn't have much himself. I guess its a culture thing.

Also, I sympathize with your concern. If you're working for the money, you should get to decide who to spend it on. However, I don't think that just because someone is from a less wealthy background, they will be after your money. "Poor" people (at least the one's I know from back home), have a certain amount of pride (especially about taking money from their rich son in law) and would never accept your money if they sense that you don't want to give it to them. Again, my experience is based entirely on people in my home town so take it for what its worth.

 
monty09:

i ask you this...

  1. what do you bring to the table?
  2. rich or poor no one wants an idiot and you sound like one....

power of the P will win everytime.. you say you would not marry a waitress but when that great looking waitress is making your toes curl you feel like you found a little slice of heaven.... you;re a kid so i will guess dont have a lot of exp with women... but end of the day.. you dont hold as many cards as you think you do.. most women dont give a crap about yout job or your pay.. as long as you can provide.. and thats not diamonds and pearls... its simple stuff.. trust me.. you think you are a great package but women get offers everyday from men for stuff simply for having a P... its true...

this may apply to women from poorer backgrounds, women will rarely ever downgrade from their current social class.

jesus christ, either half of the people in this thread are really retarded and actually believe all their true love conquers all and power of the P (i guess this means penis?) bullshit or you just never have been around chicks from wealthy families lol.

 
leveredarb:
monty09:

i ask you this...

  1. what do you bring to the table?
  2. rich or poor no one wants an idiot and you sound like one....

power of the P will win everytime.. you say you would not marry a waitress but when that great looking waitress is making your toes curl you feel like you found a little slice of heaven.... you;re a kid so i will guess dont have a lot of exp with women... but end of the day.. you dont hold as many cards as you think you do.. most women dont give a crap about yout job or your pay.. as long as you can provide.. and thats not diamonds and pearls... its simple stuff.. trust me.. you think you are a great package but women get offers everyday from men for stuff simply for having a P... its true...

this may apply to women from poorer backgrounds, women will rarely ever downgrade from their current social class.

jesus christ, either half of the people in this thread are really retarded and actually believe all their true love conquers all and power of the P (i guess this means penis?) bullshit or you just never have been around chicks from wealthy families lol.

My money's on P=pussy. Monty, can we clear this up please? :)

 
leveredarb:
monty09:

i ask you this...

  1. what do you bring to the table?
  2. rich or poor no one wants an idiot and you sound like one....

power of the P will win everytime.. you say you would not marry a waitress but when that great looking waitress is making your toes curl you feel like you found a little slice of heaven.... you;re a kid so i will guess dont have a lot of exp with women... but end of the day.. you dont hold as many cards as you think you do.. most women dont give a crap about yout job or your pay.. as long as you can provide.. and thats not diamonds and pearls... its simple stuff.. trust me.. you think you are a great package but women get offers everyday from men for stuff simply for having a P... its true...

this may apply to women from poorer backgrounds, women will rarely ever downgrade from their current social class.

jesus christ, either half of the people in this thread are really retarded and actually believe all their true love conquers all and power of the P (i guess this means penis?) bullshit or you just never have been around chicks from wealthy families lol.

women do it all the time.... it works both ways.. men and women both date down and up.... if anything women play the better 10x better then men...

 

OP i think what you're trying to avoid is gold diggers, not someone from a poor family. there are plenty of girls from humble backgrounds who don't care about money, and plenty of girls from rich backgrounds who do care about money. they don't go hand in hand.

 

I feel that my taste in women is more reasonable most other than guys. There are some guys that date chicks ONLY if they look like supermodels. Others will NOT date a chick unless the chick went to the same ivy league school as them. All I'm asking for is a chick to come from a well to do family. I'm not saying poor chicks are bad, I'm just saying that I would prefer to date and potentially marry a chick who is independent and comes from a financially stable family. I don't want her dad's money nor her money. You can call it tasteless but it's not like I'm trying to wife a hooker. Monty09, I'm very hard working and I feel that I can bring a lot to the table. All of the women whom I've dealt with in the past were smart/driven and came from educated upper middle class families. You don't know me nor my personal experiences, so why judge me?

 
suo1987:
You don't know me nor my personal experiences, so why judge me?

"boo hooo!!!! don't judge me!!!! :-( "

this is hands down the worst thread on WSO. sure, trolls have said more outrageous shit but the difference here is that you're fucking serious. what do you mean by "why judge me"? nobody on WSO knows you personally so they make an assessment based on your posts you fucking dipshit.

Money Never Sleeps? More like Money Never SUCKS amirite?!?!?!?
 
sayandarula:
suo1987:
You don't know me nor my personal experiences, so why judge me?

"boo hooo!!!! don't judge me!!!! :-( "

this is hands down the worst thread on WSO. sure, trolls have said more outrageous shit but the difference here is that you're fucking serious. what do you mean by "why judge me"? nobody on WSO knows you personally so they make an assessment based on your posts you fucking dipshit.

What's with the name calling? You sound butthurt. Besides, I've seen WORST threads on this site.

 
Unionbusters without Borders:
As long as she can cook, im fine with it. Unless she went to a state school or works at PwC

LOL is PwC the new Piper Jaffrays on WSO? I saw another post where someone was making fun of PwC in a similar way hahaha.

Pretty women make us BUY beer. Ugly women make us DRINK beer.
 
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I would totally marry a poor chick if she was awesome... definitely would need to cut her family out of the picture though

What if she wants you to help her family out? IT IS GOING TO COME UP. You can't expect the chick to be living well with you while her family is still starving.

A lot of people are misinterpreting my op. I have nothing against the less fortunate but I would like all of my hard work to go into my wife,kids,and my parents. I hear some of my friends complain about how their foreign parents send their paychecks to relatives in their home country. I hear talk about their parents paying for their nieces and nephews school fees. I sympathize with them because I am also in the same boat and it pisses me off. A lot of you guys don't understand since it's not the culture in the United States. But outside of it, especially in Africa, it's common custom for the family who makes it to America to send their paychecks back to their homeland. That's why I don't want to marry a chick from a less fortunate family. You can call me idiot or cunt but I actually want to have a healthy relationship with my wife and family without having to worry about taking care of her relatives.

 
suo1987:
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I would totally marry a poor chick if she was awesome... definitely would need to cut her family out of the picture though

A lot of people are misinterpreting my op. I have nothing against the less fortunate but I would like all of my hard work to go into my wife,kids,and my parents. .

Maybe I am not understanding you, but you just said you want your hard work to go into YOUR wife YOUR kids and YOUR parents.

So if you are married, you don't want the money to go to her parents? Only yours right?

You have a lot to learn...

 

I have your back on this one an can see exactly where you are coming from. It is a problem in dating, I just ended up ending a relationship over several factors. One of them was the money issue, I have done very well for myself and have a good bank account and money saved up. She on the other hand had nothing, a job that didn't pay worth anything, and some debt. Her family on the other hand had nothing also, not a dime to their name, and had a lot of debt. It is a constant fear that all of it will come back on you and you will be the one taking care of her family in the future and even as her mom gets older. I am not usually the type to judge or say that you shouldn't date somebody because of their income status or their families, but you have to be careful and make sure you aren't setting yourself up for huge problems in the future! I may not be an expert in relationships, but can foresee out a big future problem that is just waiting to develop. It would be nice to date somebody who has a professional career and can stand alone and independently when it comes to finances.

 

Would never marry chick in very poorly paying profession(i.e. waitress), due to general gold digging worries.

For same reason would never marry chick from incredibly poor background(unless has a very well paying job).

All theories aside, chances are if you are from an upper middle - upper class background, those would be the general circles you hang around in anyway, hence where you would likely meet your potential wife.

Also you will tend to get along much better with people from that same background, hence likelihood of oyu marrying someone from it is much higher, you will not get along with very poor chicks regardless, since they will have very different values/preferences from you.

 

How about, spelling correctly and checking for grammatical errors. Have you seen your thread? It has no weight, anymore. Do you get along with people of poor spelling/grammatical errors?

 

It's interesting that a lot of people on this thread consider waitressing a "low income profession." Waitresses can earn on average $300 untaxed dollars per shift. In most fields, if you make $100,000 a year you aren't seeing almost half of that due to taxes. A part time waitress working 4 days a week actually earns more than a person working 5 days a week in a higher tax bracket making $100,000 annually. Additionally, most waitresses are in the field while also attending school or perhaps they want a flexible job that allows them to travel.

I worked as a waitress for years while attending school. I traveled a lot, made a lot of friends, and never had that "gold digger mentality" that you all have mentioned. I have now gone on to make substantially more selling medical devices and worked very hard to get where I am today. So you might want to check your facts before you limit your dating pool.

 
suo1987:
I wouldn't and the MAIN reason is that I don't want her family become a liability to me. Trust me I have seen first hand, and it breaks families.

I had a conversation with a friend last week about this subject and he told me I was too picky. He even said that he would marry a waitress; I told him I wouldn't and he looked at me as if I was crazy. I want to marry a woman who is independent and who would be more of an asset than liability. Now I'm not saying I want a Paris Hilton but I would prefer my wife at least be from a upper middle class background. There are pros and cons to marrying chicks from humble backgrounds but the cons outweigh the pros for me. When a lot of humble chicks get a taste for money, they become greedier than even some rich chicks. This is due to the fact that they grew up with nothing and now feel that they are deserve the money since they grew up poor (like most celebrity divorces when a rich man marries a poor woman, she leaves with half and starts flossing with the guy's money like she's the baddest bitch).

I know I'm going to get shit thrown at me for this but I feel that this is a legit topic especially since most of us on this board have aspirations to become Big Swinging Dicks someday. With that said, let's discuss.

First and foremost, your logic unveils a blatant lack of experience with women and life in general. Your whole argument hinges on the logical fallacy that not having a resource (in this case money) makes people go ape shit once they are exposed to it. This couldn't be further from the truth. People (women especially) have a much harder time letting go of things they are used to. A rich woman will have a much harder time adjusting to poverty than a poor woman will adjusting to wealth.

Most girls from lower class backgrounds will have to be exceptional in some way to even be exposed to an upper class stable of guys. Girls who have had to work their way up the ladder are far more appreciative of success and will generally have the ability to look positively and respectfully on your achievements than some daddy's girl who expects to be taken care of.

The family argument also holds no weight. I can think of very few rich families I know that don't have at least a few designated fuck ups. On the other hand, most poorer families are not plagued by gun toting, crack dealing, three toothed maniac cousin fuckers.

The bottom line in choosing a mate is always going to be the potential sustainability of a relationship, joint values and that undefinable spark which romance novelists bank on, yet can't explain for shit.

You would be wise to gain a lot more experience with women before coming to these sort of hasty and (for you) potentially life ruining conclusions.

 
Midas Mulligan Magoo:
suo1987:
I wouldn't and the MAIN reason is that I don't want her family become a liability to me. Trust me I have seen first hand, and it breaks families.

I had a conversation with a friend last week about this subject and he told me I was too picky. He even said that he would marry a waitress; I told him I wouldn't and he looked at me as if I was crazy. I want to marry a woman who is independent and who would be more of an asset than liability. Now I'm not saying I want a Paris Hilton but I would prefer my wife at least be from a upper middle class background. There are pros and cons to marrying chicks from humble backgrounds but the cons outweigh the pros for me. When a lot of humble chicks get a taste for money, they become greedier than even some rich chicks. This is due to the fact that they grew up with nothing and now feel that they are deserve the money since they grew up poor (like most celebrity divorces when a rich man marries a poor woman, she leaves with half and starts flossing with the guy's money like she's the baddest bitch).

I know I'm going to get shit thrown at me for this but I feel that this is a legit topic especially since most of us on this board have aspirations to become Big Swinging Dicks someday. With that said, let's discuss.

First and foremost, your logic unveils a blatant lack of experience with women and life in general. Your whole argument hinges on the logical fallacy that not having a resource (in this case money) makes people go ape shit once they are exposed to it. This couldn't be further from the truth. People (women especially) have a much harder time letting go of things they are used to. A rich woman will have a much harder time adjusting to poverty than a poor woman will adjusting to wealth.

Most girls from lower class backgrounds will have to be exceptional in some way to even be exposed to an upper class stable of guys. Girls who have had to work their way up the ladder are far more appreciative of success and will generally have the ability to look positively and respectfully on your achievements than some daddy's girl who expects to be taken care of.

The family argument also holds no weight. I can think of very few rich families I know that don't have at least a few designated fuck ups. On the other hand, most poorer families are not plagued by gun toting, crack dealing, three toothed maniac cousin fuckers.

The bottom line in choosing a mate is always going to be the potential sustainability of a relationship, joint values and that undefinable spark which romance novelists bank on, yet can't explain for shit.

You would be wise to gain a lot more experience with women before coming to these sort of hasty and (for you) potentially life ruining conclusions.

/thread +1

The answer to your question is 1) network 2) get involved 3) beef up your resume 4) repeat -happypantsmcgee WSO is not your personal search function.
 
Midas Mulligan Magoo:
The bottom line in choosing a mate is always going to be the potential sustainability of a relationship, joint values and that undefinable spark which romance novelists bank on, yet can't explain for shit.
DontMakeMeShortYou:
At the end of the day, I want to find someone who makes me happy. I claim to be an independent guy and, as such, am not depending on my wife's income or family money to support whatever lifestyle I may want.

These are pretty much the only coherent things I found in this thread...lots of hilarious stuff in here otherwise (mostly unintentional hilarity I would imagine).

 
blastoise:
also when your dating a girl OP do you really think hmm is this girl wife material ?
Subtle trolling, +1 for you sir.

I've dated women from extreme wealth and power, and also from the bad part of my hometown, and honestly it comes down to "Can I live with this person, for the rest of my life". I like the story of J. Rockefeller who sincerely loved the woman he married, and she's the one that helped him organize his life to become wealthy: she was not rich and therefore valued money. It really can go both ways.

In all honesty, your picture shows a guy that was a bigger liability to HIMSELF than his wife's family......

Get busy living
 

Find a woman you fucking love. If you do that than everything else will fall into place.

If two people truly love each other all the modern talk of 'compatibility' and all that other bullsit goes out the window.

 
dmackorth:
Find a woman you fucking love. If you do that than everything else will fall into place.

If two people truly love each other all the modern talk of 'compatibility' and all that other bullsit goes out the window.

There are actually psychological studies to the contrary. Enjoy your Hannah Montana DVD collection.

 
expenseaccounts:
dmackorth:
Find a woman you fucking love. If you do that than everything else will fall into place.

If two people truly love each other all the modern talk of 'compatibility' and all that other bullsit goes out the window.

There are actually psychological studies to the contrary. Enjoy your Hannah Montana DVD collection.

no you don't understand.

True love will conquer everything, and with your true love you will ride on a horse over the rainbow and enter Paradise.

That's because true love is almighty and beautiful.

And even when you then get divorced and take all of your husbands money, that is excusable, because altough it was true love, you suddenly stopped feeling this true love, and when it is not true love anymore, anything is excusable.

I think this sums up the female thought process well.

 

You can tell pretty quickly whether a girl likes you for you or likes you for your money, and if you can't well then you need to spend more time around woman.

I don't care so much about how much she makes but I would care about what she does. You can tell a lot about a person by what their job is:

Waitress, secretary, cashier = I didn't do much in school, had little drive to make something of myself, hoping to just coast through life with an easy job.

(not what I consider good qualities of a "marriage material" girl and is probably outside of the bedroom pretty boring)

Owns her own business, lawyer, works IB = I at least tried some what in school, had at least some sort of idea about what I want in my life, had drive and the desire to make what I saw in my dreams happen, have enough passion in me to work through the difficulties of a more challenging job.

(She more than likely is smarter, will be more fun, and will want to get out and do something with herself instead of just sitting around and living off you which in turn makes her WAY more interesting)

Now of course if I'm just out for a good time well then I don't give two shits about what she does.

 

It is always easier to marry a woman who is of the same social status as you. If you come from a wealthy family, it is much easier to marry a woman who comes from a wealthy family - not necessarily a must, but if you have a lot of family money and marry someone whose parents are blue collar workers, there will be tension that will eventually rise on a lot of issues.

It is a legitimate thought / issue if you come from a wealthy family - it seems like so many people on this website come from less fortunate back-rounds and get their panties all in a bunch every time an issue like this is brought up.

Quit crying b/c you weren't born into money.

 
JBGH:
It is always easier to marry a woman who is of the same social status as you. If you come from a wealthy family, it is much easier to marry a woman who comes from a wealthy family - not necessarily a must, but if you have a lot of family money and marry someone whose parents are blue collar workers, there will be tension that will eventually rise on a lot of issues.

It is a legitimate thought / issue if you come from a wealthy family - it seems like so many people on this website come from less fortunate back-rounds and get their panties all in a bunch every time an issue like this is brought up.

Quit crying b/c you weren't born into money.

also this, finally some sanity in this thread lol.