Explaining your analyst schedule to your girlfriend?
So I'm in a college relationship and going to start an IB SA program in the same city she will be interning in (she's not doing finance).
I'm worried that because we are in the same city (we won't be living together) she will expect me to be able to spend a lot of time with her, when the reality is I will have little to no free time from work, and what free time I will have will be largely spent getting drinks or whatever with other guys in the office.
I'm enjoying this current relationship and would like to not call it off because of a rigorous schedule.
Any advice from you FT guys who have been able to make it work, and how you go about managing a relationship and a demanding work schedule? Is it even as challenging as I think it will be? She has been really understanding about my time commitment to SA recruiting, but the actual summer is obviously a whole different animal.
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I am in a similar boat for
I am in a similar boat for this summer. Just flat out told my girlfriend that she won't be seeing me for ten weeks other than for a lounge-around-Sunday here and there. Explain to her the importance of the opportunity to you. She will understand. If she doesn't, you shouldn't be together.
It will be a test but like it
It will be a test but like it was said, if she cant understand the opportunity and how big it is then its MODELS AND BOTTLES BABY!!! Good luck though
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Same situation here, just
Same situation here, just that we havent seen each other since november, she will be flying from latam to london so we can meet and for her bday and will only have 3 weeks together (she has to go back to her studies, dentistry). Good thing will share a flat in london. At least she is now aware I will have no life, and actually she has been very supportive.
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Dude, just tell her before
Dude, just tell her before hand what it's going to be like and if she gives you shit about it now or during your internship, drop her because it would never work with her when you work FT. If she is a very needy and co-dependent girl it will never work between the two of you. It is hard but with an understanding gf it can definitely work. I'm still with my gf and I'm FT and we live in different cities, but the reason it has worked has been because she has been understanding and doesn't sit around expecting me to text her all day long. Just talk to her and be upfront with her from the beginning.
id jump ship if shes not
id jump ship if shes not understanding.
so do you know what your sa
so do you know what your sa is going to be like ? are you a magician?
It's really complicated. Tell
It's really complicated. Tell her that you'll be working 80+ hour weeks and that you won't know when you're off until about 10 minutes ahead of time. Set her expectations realistically and then when it happens she won't be surprised. If you're serious about this career and she doesn't understand the commitment involved, then she obviously isn't cut out for it and you're saving yourself a lot of heartache/annoyance by figuring that out now.
aww cute thread. feel like
aww cute thread. feel like pinching OP's cheeks and saying mazel tov
papeete wrote: aww cute
aww cute thread. feel like pinching OP's cheeks and saying mazel tov
Ya. I just hope he can get his class schedule for next semester approved by her before the deadline.
I'm in the same boat,
I'm in the same boat, although mine has a school commitment outside of her job, so hopefully she'll be close to as busy as me. Honestly, the way I look at it is this: if you and her were working in different cities, you'd be seeing even less of each other than you will be now, so she should really be grateful for any time you get. Plus, your ability to work hard and get this opportunity, should be an attractive quality to her, assuming she actually has some maturity/logic about what will end up being important in a long-term mate, which most college girls have no clue about.
^ lol
^ lol
Just give her a copy of this
Just give her a copy of this week's "How to spend it" edition of the Financial Times and explain to her that she will be able to buy all these kinds of things if she leaves you alone for the summer.
When I was in this situation
When I was in this situation I told her that I can only talk via text whilst I was in work, gave my phone to my kid bro and paid him thirty quid a day to reply to her bullshit. That meant that the precious little time I had with her was completely devoted to banging.
Clarkey wrote: When I was in
When I was in this situation I told her that I can only talk via text whilst I was in work, gave my phone to my kid bro and paid him thirty quid a day to reply to her bullshit. That meant that the precious little time I had with her was completely devoted to banging.
30 quid a day? Holy shit dude... Can I get your brothers gig part time? Over a 10 week SA stint that's over 3k USD... Not a bad living... To my next point this girl better have been super fit to warrant such a substantial donation to your brothers T&A charitable trust...
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a lot of concern just over SA
a lot of concern just over SA positions
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